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I have completed HR discussion round they were asking about my LWD..I said it is officially 90 days.. so should I discuss with my present company manager about LWD before or after getting offer letter
PS: I will be released early as I am sitting idle in the project..one guy in the project got early release.
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It does NOT get easier, you just get better at it. Find other moms at work. No one else will understand what you’re going through. But you got this!
Yes, THAT! The moms you work with are the key. Keep in mind that, as with anything else, you have to find your people, though. Initially, the first ones I found were ultra-competitive about parenting, household stuff, etc. It took me a minute to realize that their approach was stressing me out. So I keep looking and found moms also willing to admit they were in the struggle and who were supporters, cheerleaders, sounding boards or shoulders to cry on, as the moment demanded, and (hopefully) I provided the same for them. Try for a mix of moms in the same phase of parenting and moms with older kids. They help bring perspective. It is hard but you absolutely have got this and will some day be so very proud that you stretched yourself in this way (and your kids will be the better for it)! Big hug to you!
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You are different. You are biologically a completely different person, with different hormones, a different body, different responsibilities, etc. You have to be prepared to work differently too. 6 PM calls aren’t going to work for you most of the time. You also can’t be an involved parent and expect to bill a lot of hours—I would say 1,800 is the absolute ceiling for any parent (moms and dads) to still be a meaningful caregiver. You can definitely still be a great lawyer and a great mom, but I wouldn’t recommend trying to get “back” to anything. You need to create a new normal that works for your family.
For me, I recommend a great child care support network (think multiple layers of support), regular carved out time with baby that is sacred and special (like a MyGym class and lunch date routine), outsourcing everything that you can so your time is really only spent on things that merit it, lots of outdoor time, good quality food, and a really nice gym.
Ditto on finding other moms who are similarly situated, and also consider finding your own therapist. I wish had done that sooner and didn't do it til I was burned out and overwhelmed. You can either search through your insurance or go to a website like psychologytoday.com and search based on filters (e.g. gender, speciality, degree, insurance, teleHealth, etc) to view profiles