34/M here. Had an uncontested dissolution in October, shortly after began dating someone I’d met a couple months earlier. She’s 35/F - I think she’s absolutely fantastic and we’re a wonderful fit. Asked her to move into my apartment with me last week - she’s in agreement but others have told me to “take it slow.” What do you think, am I moving too fast?

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Dude, you're 34, not 69. Why the rush to co-habitate? At least give it 6+ months.

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See if you can spend a weekend by yourself without any distractions from her. The results will tell you a lot. Looking within yourself my friend :)

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What you’ve described is a giant red flag. Slow down.

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I just think it’s better to take things a little slower

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Yes, based on what you’ve described above and no other information. It could be fine though but if others who know you are telling you it’s too fast you should listen to the people who care about you instead of asking a bunch of strangers. They know you and have a lot more information than you’ve provided. It seems like you don’t trust them and you’re just looking for validation. I’m not the person to give you that.

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The way you phrased the above and elsewhere in your post makes me think you're rushing.
* A little odd to me the way you said "move into my apartment" instead of "move in together"
* "Feel very strongly about this woman" - not "I love this woman very much"
* Plenty of ways to find out if you're good partners and more than just lovers, and IMO you should already know this by the time you move in with someone

Aren’t you worried you’re taking things fast with what sounds like a rebound? Sounds like you need to be single for a little or just date casually.

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Never live with an SO unless engaged or married

This seems like the opposite of what I’d do.

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