Another potential date ditched today stating “I need some person who can be in-person more than you do, not going to work with your work travel style”

I’m in my 30s and I like the job. I am unable to find date, leave alone a bf! I’m so worried for my future that I’ll be all alone. Quitting the job in the anticipation of a partner that I do not know seems very risky (given I like this job)

Not sure how and where to find a partner for a gay guy in a small city! Any advice?

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Always focus on you. Don’t make compromises to YOUR future to please someone who you’re gambling on whether they care about you or not. You will always have you, the right one will come along.

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You should absolutely not quit your job.

My partner is currently in the middle of a work sprint and basically unable to engage with me on levels that satisfy me. But I am an adult with my own life and job and go take care of myself and come back together with him when he’s done. You just want to hunt an equal minded soul. They are out there.

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May I ask, what city? 🏙️

How will you find potential date if you don’t want to reveal your city?

Have you considered transferring with McK to a bigger city?

You need to find someone who’s independent, secure, and has a complete life of his own.

Makes sense! However, where I am, most people don’t even know what consulting is!

Move to a big city. More fish

Find a job that will keep you local so you can have a bf.

Find someone who also travels a lot for work. They will be much more understanding and you will have at least that in common.

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