Are any of you married or know of spouses were one eats Halal and the other doesn’t? Was this a big issue in your view or how did the couples handle it? Same for one regularly fasting full months and the other maybe a few fasts in Ramadan. Etc. How did they handle it. Any guidance or anecdotes welcome.

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I know couples who navigate these differences by being supportive of each other's practices, even if they don’t always align. Some find ways to enjoy meals together, like preparing Halal options while respecting the other's preferences. Communication and mutual respect are key for making it work smoothly, in my opinion

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My parents have have the situation (one eats halal and one doesn’t…one was more observant while the other wasn’t) wasn’t really ever an issue between them.

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In terms of issue.. isnt this something you’d align before marriage?

Tbh I think it’s going to differ for each individual because it’s a personal issue. Plus you need to think about how you might want to raise kids - even if you’re okay with it personally, would you be okay with your kids not following, what about family/friends who visit/stay and might “judge” (fairly)? I realize you can’t plan for every scenario, but you do need to get a pulse on what daily life will look like because marriage is all about the daily routine.

I know some people from college who didn’t eat halal/fast etc., but they were always respectful and so it worked out. But I don’t know if I could have a spouse who didn’t eat halal.. just everything from sharing utensils to making out would weird me out. I don’t know if I could have a spouse who didn’t fast because Ramadan has always been so special for me.

What I would do is state how it’s important to you, and see if there’s honest willingness in your potential to work towards it.. I’m sure they know they can “improve” as a Muslim and I do believe marriage can improve us individuals and Muslims.

For me personally I would have a concern with this as it’s such a big part of my life (eating halal). But if it’s not a dealbreaker for you and you can find ways to navigate it, then it should be ok. Have you raised your concern with whom you’re talking to?

This will cause lots of issues and you need to figure out if it’s important for your children to have good examples deen wise. There is so much confusion in this world, not having parents eat halal or observe the basic pillars of Islam shouldn’t even be in the mix if we’re trying to preserve the deen of our progeny.

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