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You can do something nice for him, but I wouldn't make it about the 3 months. That may make him feel like he should've done something for you, when 3 months isn't something that is typically celebrated. Doing nice things doesn't always have to be tied to a milestone.
I feel like a lot of people are using love languages wrong. Your love language is how you want people to show you love, not how you show love to others.
I don’t think any woman on this thread said you shouldn’t do things for the man that you care for. We’re responding to your question about celebrating a 3 month anniversary — which is a bit atypical and not really necessary.
(Overall) reciprocation in a relationship is a must, however.
Do not give him anything unless his love language is receiving gifts. You'll regret it down the road. Trust!
I know...I was joking
I wouldn’t give him anything unless it was agreed upon by both of you that you want to acknowledge the day. I feel black women can over extend sometimes, and this definitely feels like one of those times.
He’s supposed to
A trinket of some kind from an inside joke, favorite joke, movie or hobby of his that you know of.
I meant favorite show* lol. My love language is gift giving so even for small occasions or just because I love giving gifts. If that’s your love language then go for it 💕
I’d give it 6 months (but realistically 1 year) before I thought about buying anyone anything. My husband and I didn’t celebrate until 1yr. If you truly wanna mark the occasion, go to dinner and offer to split the bill or possibly pay the whole thing.
@ K it is low key that's why I'm asking for something small and relatively small. I only cook one day a week so... yea, not that
Nothing. What is a 3 month anniversary?
well written card, framed pic of y'all, and buy some new lingerie
Perfect
If he has mentioned a hobby/movie/ activity he’d like to see, or do, take the initiative to plan it, of course make sure it’s something you’re open to doing. This way you’re not over extending yourself but making a space to show you’ve been paying attention to him.
3 months that’s when our first real argument kicked in! I guess the book is called 90 day rule for a reason. Dinner is nice but I wouldn’t celebrate until a year in!
3 months is not an anniversary.
Like yes your love language is gift giving but it’s not his.
How do you even know that he considers this something to celebrate?
1 year makes sense.
If you feel so inclined to celebrate, pay for dinner or cook dinner. Skip the card. Pay for a date or something to reciprocate.
3 months and celebrating to me is a red flag. Have you ever had a long term relationships is first that comes to mind.
Ma’am please reread your own response.
1. You’re not patient enough to wait a year. 🚩🚩🚩🚩
2. So you gonna give him gifts even three months?
3. He choose a date to be a official so you can celebrate one year!
4. You’re doing too much. Chill!
Take him to dinner but don't center it around "3 months" I would mention it at said dinner that and toast to 3 months official.. really low key but still acknowledging your interest/satisfaction etc.
It's probably time to assess where u really are. I could be reaching but seems like ur vying for his affection which is a sign of the strength of the relationship. See if it lasts a year then give em something g
I think it’s interesting that you have focused on your own love language and not his in this comment. Even more interesting if he does not intend on marking the “anniversary” because technically, it isn’t one. As your love language is gifting, you may want to communicate your expectations if you haven’t already because whilst you may deem this necessary to celebrate, I can see why marking a 3 month milestone might not be top of mind to someone else as apparent in the comments.
A gift card for a massage at a local spa?
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