Feeling guilty and insecure that I didn’t have a huge reaction to finding my wedding dress. I love the dress but I didn’t cry or jump up and down over it. I felt self-conscious after seeing everyone else’s reaction to my reaction when saying yes. I can’t shake the feeling now that I shouldn’t have said yes. Anybody else have a similar experience?

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I didn’t feel anything when I found my dress. It’s just a piece of clothing. You should be more excited for the marriage than the wedding and dress, so it’s perfectly fine not to have a reaction. I think pop culture and shows like Say Yes to the Dress created an unrealistic idea about dress shopping.

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I felt this exact same way to the point of almost having dress regret because I was so in my head about this feeling. My wedding day recently came and I couldn’t have felt more happy or beautiful in my dress. Don’t let the overly showy displays ruin your experience ❤️

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Same girl! I was like “yeah this is as good as it’s gonna get so let’s go with it.”

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I also had an underwhelming reaction to my dress. I never pictured myself having a big wedding where I’d need an actual wedding dress so it just wasn’t something I’d spent a lot of time thinking about or attached a lot of meaning to. I did feel comfortable and confident in my dress, which is more important than having a big, emotional reaction to it.

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I had a very similar reaction and can tell you with 100% confidence that I love my dress. I’m also not one to cry/jump up and down with happiness, so it didn’t surprise me that I didn’t do the same for finding my wedding dress.

My MOH did take a video of my face in the mirror opening my eyes after they put the veil on and you can see a very subtle smile on my face.

Don’t doubt yourself.

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I didn't have a huge reaction to my dress either. I will say though after the tailoring I definitely was much happier with my decision. Now I look at pictures and I'm glad I went with that one

Like A1 said, the shows and social media lead us to believe that we have to be crying and fawning over the dress we pick

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Shouldn’t have said yes to the dress or the fiancé? Only the latter should be your concern. 🤗

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I tried on probably 120 dresses at 10 different stores LOL and still didn’t have a huge reaction. I just smiled and said “ok I actually really like it! I think this is the one.” I’m just picky and thought I wanted a different style initially. But my mom and dad crying I had a reaction to!

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I agree with all the ladies here. I liked my dress but didn’t love it bc I was still wanting to see what else was out there but I was tired of shopping around so I went for it. I just keep reminding myself that once you add jewelry, make up, hair it will all come together beautifully and you will love it even more :)

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Yeah I was happy with my dress but by no means was I jumping up and down or getting emotional it's a dress.

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New to this bowl and this first post is so validating. I was pleased with my dress when buying, but it was everybody around me who was so excited and emotional.

I know it looks great, I just wish I was more ecstatic. But definitely best out of the options I've seen so can't complain

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I didn't cry or anything either. People react differently. Comparing yourself won't help, in this situation and many others.

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Don’t worry about it. I had an emotional reaction to my wedding dress, but by the day-of, I wished I had a different dress. (Mine was strapless and heavy, so kind of annoying) Pictures turned out well so it’s not a big issue.

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