Is it normal to feel depressed/lonely during wedding planning? I almost feel like I can’t talk about it since other people aren’t engaged and I feel like I’m rubbing it in their faces talking about it. So I have to keep everything to myself and it’s kind of stressful

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Are you all pretty much planning everything yourselves? I think it’s just a lot of decision making so it can get overwhelming, and just having to think about everyone else and their feelings!

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Any room in the budget for a wedding planner or day of coordinator? Maybe that could help with the decision making as well!

Totally. My fiancé doesn’t give af about wedding planning either so it’s very isolating!

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Talk to your fiancé! Those closer I get, the more I find certain details stressful bc I want everyone to enjoy themselves/not cause drama bc they don’t like where they are standing or sitting or something. So no, it’s not just you 💕

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This is so true!! I was the first to get engaged and with the pandemic and everyone else’s (stressful) life things going on, I felt guilty for talking about the wedding / asking for help bc I didn’t want to be another burden to them or make them feel bad in any way. It wasn’t until the day before the wedding, some of my friends and family said they wished I asked them to help more bc it would’ve been a nice distraction for them for stuff going on in their lives or that they knew I was super stressed and internalized a lot and wanted to help ease my emotional and mental stress - it’s all about communication.

On the other hand, I had to have multiple talks with my husband when planning bc he would be like “I don’t care, you’re more particular about things then me, so I’m happy with what you’re happy with.” He didn’t really understand that was isolating for me so it took a lot of explaining how it made me feel alone and that I want him to be represented in the wedding too. He didn’t see that it was isolating and once I explained it to him, he was like “I didn’t mean to, I just wanted you to pick the things you wanted to make it perfect for you.” He really picked it up after I laid out all my feelings via midnight crying / hyperventilating sessions.

Our wedding was the most stressful thing I’ve ever done in my life but at the end, I’m really proud of myself (and my husband) bc it turned out amazing and everyone came back and told us that they saw the personal details and thought that I put into things.

It will be okay, just take it day by day, task by task, and it will be so worth it!! You can do it!!

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I feel the same way! Or if I talk about it I feel like I’m seeking attention or something. idk it’s a weird feeling for sure and I def feel kind of lonely

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Yep exactly! It's especially weird since a lot of people didn't end up having a big wedding because of the pandemic and just did a virtual one, so it feels strange to get excited about all the details in front of them

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