Is it normal to feel depressed/lonely during wedding planning? I almost feel like I can’t talk about it since other people aren’t engaged and I feel like I’m rubbing it in their faces talking about it. So I have to keep everything to myself and it’s kind of stressful

like
Posting as :
works at
You are currently posting as works at

Talk about it here!

like

Are you all pretty much planning everything yourselves? I think it’s just a lot of decision making so it can get overwhelming, and just having to think about everyone else and their feelings!

like

Any room in the budget for a wedding planner or day of coordinator? Maybe that could help with the decision making as well!

Totally. My fiancé doesn’t give af about wedding planning either so it’s very isolating!

like

Talk to your fiancé! Those closer I get, the more I find certain details stressful bc I want everyone to enjoy themselves/not cause drama bc they don’t like where they are standing or sitting or something. So no, it’s not just you 💕

like

This is so true!! I was the first to get engaged and with the pandemic and everyone else’s (stressful) life things going on, I felt guilty for talking about the wedding / asking for help bc I didn’t want to be another burden to them or make them feel bad in any way. It wasn’t until the day before the wedding, some of my friends and family said they wished I asked them to help more bc it would’ve been a nice distraction for them for stuff going on in their lives or that they knew I was super stressed and internalized a lot and wanted to help ease my emotional and mental stress - it’s all about communication.

On the other hand, I had to have multiple talks with my husband when planning bc he would be like “I don’t care, you’re more particular about things then me, so I’m happy with what you’re happy with.” He didn’t really understand that was isolating for me so it took a lot of explaining how it made me feel alone and that I want him to be represented in the wedding too. He didn’t see that it was isolating and once I explained it to him, he was like “I didn’t mean to, I just wanted you to pick the things you wanted to make it perfect for you.” He really picked it up after I laid out all my feelings via midnight crying / hyperventilating sessions.

Our wedding was the most stressful thing I’ve ever done in my life but at the end, I’m really proud of myself (and my husband) bc it turned out amazing and everyone came back and told us that they saw the personal details and thought that I put into things.

It will be okay, just take it day by day, task by task, and it will be so worth it!! You can do it!!

like

I feel the same way! Or if I talk about it I feel like I’m seeking attention or something. idk it’s a weird feeling for sure and I def feel kind of lonely

like

Yep exactly! It's especially weird since a lot of people didn't end up having a big wedding because of the pandemic and just did a virtual one, so it feels strange to get excited about all the details in front of them

like

Related Posts

Anyone know how much a full time nanny in the Austin area would cost?

like

Men marry their second mom.

likesmarthelpfulfunny

My Dad and brother didn’t even text me happy birthday 😔

likesmart

I’m struggling to make lgbtq+ friends in the city. I’ve tried lgbtq+ bars but I don’t like the romantic pressure they seem to have. What is the best way to make friends? 25yo active F

like

It’s a man’s market these days. Men, what tips do you have to give to ladies to increase our likelihood of entering a successful relationship.

like

How do I know if I am ready for a divorce?

like

Anyone know any good divorce lawyers in NYC?
Thanks in advance 🙇🏾‍♀️

like

35F divorced with a kid. I think I will never get remarried or in a serious relationship again. Lots of men don't like dating women with children. At my age either the guys are past their prime, divorced/ing and have to provide half their income to their first wife. Many with kids live on the same street as their ex wives so they can be close to their child. I'm not comfortable dating guys like that. On the flip side there are the ones that were never married, which by this age cont

like

I'd like to have kids one day..

I don't think I could stand them any longer than that though.

funny

My last therapist keeps coming up in my mind. I left her when I moved to a new area before COVID dug in and frankly it felt like leaving a girlfriend. She also disclosed in the final session that she was a member of AA and knew several of the people I occasionally discussed from the rooms. Her knowledge of the program certainly built trust with me early on, but it has been two years. I discussed it with my current therapist but she’s still in there. Any advice?

like

Struggling with a friendship that has become toxic & fills me with anxiety. various factors have caused us to drift but it feels like nothing I say or do now is right. The issues seem to really come to a head for one when she is drunk, using it to air grievances with me. When sober she doesn’t feel like talking about it. It feels like we are pretending to be best friends because of history but the substance isn’t there and I just want out of it. Can anyone offer advice?

like

I’ve been a family caregiver for four years, and now look to return to the workforce. I realize that this will be a bit difficult, especially during these economic conditions, plus other factors, such as being an older employee, etc. I updated my account with a few job sites, adding on the fact that I took time off to care for a family member. I would appreciate some advice, anything that would be helpful.

like

What are some thoughts that get you out of your breakup sadness zone? I need to borrow them.

1. Have a better life than the one you imagined with him
2. Build a big life. Being rich and famous solves everything.
3. Mind your business. Be the main character in your story.

like

My gf and me call each other everytime we have free time. However lately she seems disinterested in phone time. She never initiates calls anymore and she tells me she wants to hang up in the middle of the day and not right before bedtime. We live a 4 hour drive apart. And I told her this is like living together from a distance, because I put her on the house speakers. What can I do to keep her engaged?

like

Parents - do any of you truly regret having kids?

likefunny

A long post: seeking some perspective. My husband of 2 years that I’ve been in a relationship with for more than 8 years just woke up one day and told me that he’s unhappy in our relationship. I’m devastated because he’s never expressed anything like this in the 8 years. He’s been super supportive and loving, even when we were in a long distance relationship. He supported my career and dreams and this just doesn’t make sense. We have gotten a counselor but things aren’t getting better. Comment>

like

After years of consciously dating toxic men because I was afraid of commitment, I’ve finally found a man who treats me well who I can imagine spending the rest of my life with. I’ve never been happier than I have in the last month.

It’s a wonderful feeling.

likeuplifting

Came here to say that I wish I could fully express to my non-parent colleagues how much their support has meant to me. I can cover for them when they have stuff so they can unplug, but I feel like they will never truly understand the gratitude when they offer to do a task for me when my kid is sick, etc. Any ideas on how to pay it forward?

like

Father of two princesses. 2 years and 4 months.

How many couples here where the husband/male SO is younger than the wife/female SO? And what if the age difference.
To start..I'm 34 and wife is 36.

like

More Posts

How much do MDs make? What is their comp structure like?

like

Can you still succeed in your career after getting laid off?

like

Best consulting firms for PE work (CDD,Value Creation)? Looking for the best firm for exit ops to PE ops eventually. Thanks!

like

Floating- love it or hate it?

like

Jummah Mubarak Fam ☪️💚

like

Never ending conference call

Post Photo
likefunny

These are my favorite clients by far.

Post Photo
likefunny

The adventures of RECTANGLE MAN

Post Photo
likefunny

Good morning. I am currently a senior associate in BugLaw, and I have applied to several trial attorney jobs in Chicago offices of federal agencies since the start of the pandemic. According to usajobs.gov, my applications to the DOJ and CFTC were “referred,” and my application to the SEC was received and my GS scale verified. But I haven’t received any updates on these applications in over a month. Does anyone here have any insights on these or on federal hiring generally? Thanks!

HCL Technologies any one joining hcl on 21 Monday, any onboarding details communicated to you or not.

likehelpful

Hi, does anyone have any perspectives on CX&I (Customer Experience & Innovation) team at Publicis Sapient, please? Seems like they are about to reboot it with new leadership. Any insights on why it struggled, and how it is perceived by clients? Many thanks

like

Hi! Just joined this bowl - anyone in the Houston area want to connect?

like

How do I keep my watch from falling down my wrist when I walk? Is it normal for it to be able to slide a little?

An additional link off (already a half one) makes it indent my wrist, so running out of options that way. First time with a metal bracelet

like

Best coat for the winter? 30 y.o. Male. Really want a canada goose but that’s like paying a month’s worth of rent 😞

likefunny

Hi all,
Q1: Are there many onsite opportunities at EY GDS?
Q2: If yes, how is the travel policy? Basically how company supports international travel of employees?
@EY

like

Hi All,
One of my friends has recently joined capgemini and has following doubts related to tax proof.
Can we edit the tax declarations in HGS portal every month any day?
Does Capgemini asks for rent agreement along with rent receipts as a part of tax proof submission?
Also which proofs needed for,
80c - elss lic
80d - insurance for senior citizen parents
80ccd1b - nps

How does one get into trading from positions elsewhere in the bank? What would impress you most about candidates attempting to do so?

like

🍿🍿🍿🍿in two minutes!!

Post Photo
like
like

Additional Posts in The Wedding Bowl

How many things are you guys adding to your registry? Are they at various price points?

like

Has anyone hosted their own engagement party? All of my friends and family live far away from us so it is just easier for me to plan it but I feel odd doing so. Any tips?

likefunny

If you have a lace wedding dress, would you get a lace veil or a beaded one? It's been hard trying to find similar/exact lace.

like

Anyone unsure of what to do for bridesmaids “proposals?” I want them to get excited and feel special but when I see how much money I’d be spending on things like custom totes or mugs I’m like is it really worth it? I’d send cards but most of my bridal party I see pretty regularly/they live nearby so it seems odd to send them something when I live down the street. Help! 😅

like

So my fiancé and I are having a microwedding in Rocky Mountain National Park next year, and we’re working with an elopement planner.
She sent over a sample ceremony (intro, sweet poems + passages to be read, and example vows), and we read through it last night. I was reading it out loud while my fiancé made dinner, and it just hit me that this is really happening. I’m just really happy that I found someone who is willing to take a vow to spend his life with me and I’m so excited for that day :)

like

Looking for craft ideas for the first evening of a Bachelorette weekend getaway. All ideas welcome!

like

We’re having an Indian wedding on a Sunday with ceremony in the morning, followed by lunch, and then cocktail hour + reception.

Given that the wedding starts early, we will have guests (~30) flying in the day before. What is the expectation in terms of arranging dinner for them? We’re trying to avoid having an additional event Saturday night - any idea on if these guests would need to have food arranged for them by us and what that could look like on a cost effective budget.

like

I don't wear a lot of makeup - how far in advance from the ceremony should I be getting it done? Is having it all done 2 hrs before the ceremony too late or too early? I'm not getting pictures done until ceremony and after. Thanks!

like

For those who had Catholic ceremonies.. What kind of shoes did you wear that had bottom soles that looked nice in pics? In other words, shoes with bottoms that don’t look scratched up when you are kneeling at the altar.

like

What gift did you get your spouse on your wedding day?

like

Tux budget NYC?

like

I just booked my venue for October 2022. I am very excited but want to lose weight to be comfortable on my wedding day. I put on some weight during the pandemic and I am about 40lbs over my comfort weight. Anyone follow a plan that worked for them?

like

My stepmom threw me a very elaborate bridal shower. My stepsister pitched in and also did a lot of work for it. Bridesmaids helped but didn’t do a ton. What, if anything should I do for my stepmom and stepsister as a showing of gratitude? I don’t want to spend a lot of $$ but definitely want to act quickly and thoughtfully.

Can I do a mother of bride dress appointment the same time after my bride fitting? It'll just be my mom coming to the appointment. Or should I do hers right after I finish my appointment?

like

How much did you spend on your wedding? Do you regret it? Also please share the location of your wedding if possible. Thank you!

like

Any tips on making a small wedding feel intimate and special versus tiny and boring?

like

Considering getting highlights and/or extensions for my wedding. Is it worth it? Or is it a bad idea to update your hair for the wedding?

like

How much are y’all spending on your videographer and what all are they providing?

like

Budget friendly bridesmaid proposals if you’d still like to give a small token in addition to a card?

like

We decided to do a photo session before the wedding for the two of us and family. The photographer and the location were amazing but the makeup was terrible, and because I was low on time, I couldn't fix it before the photos. The makeup artist make me look yellow! Idk if there's anything that could be done at this point, but feeling so disappointed :(

like

New to Fishbowl?

Download the Fishbowl app to
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
That was just a preview…
Sign Up to see all discussions
  • Discover what it’s like to work at companies from real professionals
  • Get candid advice from people in your field in a safe space
  • Chat and network with other professionals in your field
Sign up in seconds to unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.

Already a user?
Login here

Share

Embed this post

Copy and paste embed code on your site

Preview

Download the
Fishbowl app

See what’s happening in your industry
from the palm of your hand.

A phone with Fishbowl app

Scan your QR code to download
Fishbowl app on your mobile

Download app

Sign up for free to view this conversation on Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy

Already have an account? Log in

Sign up for free to continue using Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use(New) and Privacy Policy(New)
Messaging rates may apply

Already have an account? Log in

For account settings, visit Fishbowl on Desktop Browser or

General

Legal