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Took me a few months to start feeling a difference and then a year to completely decompress. At first, I kept waking up at 5am, checking emails that didn’t exist. Three months in, I finally stopped hearing imaginary Slack pings. Long walks with no phone, picking up old hobbies, and unlearning the idea that rest equals laziness. Decompression isn’t a vacation, it’s a detox.
Congrats OP.
Please come back in a year and debrief the experience... Currently on year 11 (though my Whoop age suggests it's year 15). Your story gives hope.
You don’t feel decompressed yet after 5 months?
Coach
12 months minimum.
After a 20 year career, it took my husband about 3 days to settle into his new life haha! I went part-time at the same time (for benefits and a little income) and that was a harder transition. I feel behind all of the time and have to constantly set boundaries with my time.
He was just so burnt out. He decided to give himself as many days as he needed to be bored. In the meantime, he made a list of house projects he’s been putting off. Once he was a little bored, he started working on the projects. He says it’s very satisfying to know he’s doing these things for us, rather than an employer.
Immediately went on a 6 week tour of Europe. Start your new life by getting out of your normal routine.
Immediately had a sense of relief but was not able to fully just “be” until month 5-6 and really felt free close to a year.
I actively worked with a therapist to work on the ptsd from work (like m1 said about the pings triggering a sense of stress and panic). Learned to wake up without an alarm. Became super active and fit. Became truly happy. But at some point you will want to find something to provide a sense of purpose or intellectual challenge