Going back to work after being out on maternity leave. Any advice on how to handle your job with a newborn now? I feel like a completely different person. Did a lot of the working moms here end up changing jobs and maybe seeking in-house positions as opposed to their billable hour positions?

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I was let go 9 months after I came back from my maternity leave. Replaced by someone who is not married.

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Mom of an 8 month old at a big law firm. It has been HARD coming back. I came back when my daughter was 3.5 months, and I just can’t keep up with billable requirements. I did okay my first month back but honestly since have been struggling just with the time it takes to bill and pump (baby was exclusively breastfed until 6.5 months and now takes minimal solids). And then my firm began requiring us to come into the office “full time” in December, which adds 2 hours of commute time to my day.

All that being said, the leadership at my firm seems to have a “this too shall pass” mentality about me not hitting hours last year and likely this year. It’s a challenging phase where work just might not be your top priority and that is OKAY. Just be honest with your leadership and be kind to yourself - you feel like a different person because you are a different person. Your brain chemistry has literally changed. Patience with myself has been the only way to get through this year so far. I do think many moms change jobs because frankly biglaw was not designed for working moms and it hasn’t adapted to be any better. But I do know many moms who make it work—don’t be afraid to ask for help in whatever form you can get it (spouse, childcare provider, cleaning services, etc. can make or break this). No matter what your next steps look like, congrats on your little one and good luck!

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Mom to a now 2-year-old, and honestly, the only way I've been able to do it is remaining exclusively remote. It's allowed me to maintain very high productivity (which is, I think, why no one bothers me about it) and be an effective parent. Please give yourself some grace with the transition. It's using a part of your brain that you haven't in awhile, and will take some time acclimating to this new way of life. If you hate it or feel it isn't working after 6 months or so, then it may be worth considering a change that's sustainable and consistent with your priorities.

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I went back to a billable hour job after maternity leave. I’m lucky to have parents available to care for my kiddo, we would have hired a nanny otherwise. I’m mostly in office but am able to work remotely if my kiddo is sick, etc.

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