Have you experienced much racism in your dating life? For the first time I just found out a guy was dating me because he "prefers" Black women - he's white. This is a big red flag for me because it sounds a lot like fetishization or that he likes me because I'm "exotic." How can I tell if he's for real?

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I would say trust your gut. At the end of the day we all have our preferences and if its just a preference thing, that is not a bad thing. Everyone is allowed to have them. But if you have a feeling that its because he thinks you're exotic or something like that then I say listen to your gut and run.

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Definitely - I feel like I'm seen as a fetish or a weird experiment. Trust your gut for sure - if you feel like he is being fetishy, then he is. I've heard a few white guys say they prefer black women, but it was only because they would say anything to get what they want (sex) orrrr they were called racist a few times and are now trying to "prove" they are not.

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All you had to ask was WHY he has that preference, girl. 😂

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Fetishes don’t lead to marriage. And who want to be test run? I would pass him up.

Nothing he said was bad girl not at all… sounds like you’re not really that interested and or trying to find reasons to breakup with him or you’re thinking too much into it.

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