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I’m 25, earning 1L/month with 3 YOE. My parents now want me to get married, which is fine — but if a match doesn’t work, they blame me.

I stayed home for years due to medical issues in the family, putting my dreams on hold. Despite all that, it still feels like I’m never enough.

I love my family, they love me too — but when will this mindset of blaming children for everything change?

Thinking of ending WFH and going to the office for some space.

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I can relate to you. It's hard to find a match who earns more than you and is compatible from other perspectives. But don't settle for less. And don't marry this soon. It's not only about finances, men ego can't tolerate girls earning more than them in a relationship. This will cause many issues. So better do wfo, explore your life and different places and marry only when you find the right one even if it takes years of searching

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25? And you wanna marry? It's like you are leaving party before it starts. Enjoy your life first. Go on solo trips. Find out what you really like and don't like. Find out what is negotiable for you. And once you are ready then search for someone. Without knowing what you want in life it's big risk. Think wisely!

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Refer me in your company and join some company which have off. Don't worry this is a part of staying with family which everyone faces. Take a deep breadth and don't marry this soon. Try to Take Time to leave a life for u.

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Coming from a person who got married at 29 and thinking of taking a divorce..was working from home and the in laws and husband didn't understand me..lost my job few days back..unable to find any motivation to do anything..I would not suggest women to get married today..even if you do pls make sure you emphasize on what kind of life you want after marriage and it should be non negotiable..take your time and live a little away from the comfort of home it will teach you many many things..

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Being married for 6 years and I completely agree with the thought of non-negotiable points for life after marriage. People will pressurize u as they need to get rid of their "responsibility". But ur life and choices are ur responsibility. Don't just be somebody's responsibility, be the leader of ur life.

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My husband always put me down and never motivated me..not any support neither financially nor emotionally.. beaten me on false accusations of his parents during pregnancy and after kids too .i worked like hell and continued my job with many ups and down...i say to girls please be financially independent....no one is yours except you your self...I was thrown out of house crying with small kids , many more which i can't list here...I am staying with him n his dramatic parents only for kids sake but atleast i am financially independent,can feed kids n myself

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Please don't endure abuse.. the kids can live with you separately if you are financially independent..staying with an abusive father will screw up their mental health anyway..so staying with an abusive toxic man in the name of children is not justifiable..please be safe and well

Join office from some time

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Which office u r working

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Why is the match not working???

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I will suggest join office , make friends start enjoying the life , do not get married so early again so many responsibilities will come in your life . This is your life you work hard you need peace and happiness.

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25 is seriously not the age to get married these days

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Thank you everyone!💌
I didn’t expect so many heartwarming and logical responses!

-am working at Infosys
-resume can be sent in my email id (please dm)

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They blame because they dont knownhow to address the situation. Try to tell them how u felt becuase of this and they will change slowly

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You are misunderstanding that they love you. It will be better to end the WFH and best to move away for better opportunities

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Trust me it all depends on the guy if it’s an arrange marriage setup, your age is ideal if u r matured enough to face your in-laws /relatives at husband side to speak upfront. U know now marriage they ll pressure and then children they will ask I mean the in laws n parents, u ll feel really suffocated n may lose urself if u r not sure about all this. Talk to urself listen to ur gut feeling if u feel it’s not right thing to marry now den its completely okay , take another few years tym to explore on urself!!

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Exactly, it's a never ending loop of expectations. Marriage asks for many more compromises.

I got married at 23 and have a son who is 11 years of age.I was very keen in completing my masters and pursuing my career which I conveyed very clearly to my husband before marraige.
Marry only if the boy is good in nature and understanding. Nowadays major boys are understanding as I have seen this in my friends and cousins case. Analyse the boy very well and make the decision.

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