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To further expand, she isn’t the type to want to be a stay at home partner. She gets a lot of fulfillment out of work and I love that about her.
But she hasn’t been able to find something that sticks. She’s interested in the body and more recently from a fitness perspective, but she dropped out of school due to financial stress.
Coming from tech, I have a completely different perspective on breaking into the workforce and I feel like I really don’t know how to help.
To add more context, her current job she’s had for two years at which she got certified as a personal trainer. She loves what she does and she’s truly amazing at it.
My concern is there isn’t much more for her to grow in there (pay wise at least). And I’m not sure what the next couple years would look like if she continues doing this.
But from the other posts, I think my best course of action is to continue to support her and helping her focus and grow down this path. Maybe the next jump for her would be to open her own practice.
Sorry this is causing strain on your relationship, financial problems are a tough one. How long has she been trying out different jobs? It took my dad 5 years of fumbling around, trying out different things, before he finally found something that stuck and he really enjoyed. Now, that’s not to say this will happen to everyone, because it won’t, but it could.
Also, maybe you can have an honest conversation about this. Tell her you’re worried about financial stability, which is an incredibly valid concern in this economy. Frame it as you want to continue seeing her grow and be happy in her career, how can we make this work? Talk about what inspires her, what she doesn’t like, etc.
This is super helpful, thank you. I just responded in a earlier thread since my OP didn’t contain the full picture (TLDR: she’s currently a personal trainer and has actually enjoyed her job for the first time in a while).
It can just be hard since the two of us are in completely different financial situations.
If she is a hard worker, you should help her succeed. Plus, if you love her does it really matter what amount of many she makes? As long as you feel that she would do the same for you, you should help in her difficult times. Remember, success has no timeline.
Very true, thank you so much for this.
I think we need more context OP. It’s fine to be interested in something, but what does she want to do? If she doesn’t want to do stay at home, what’s the ultimate ambition? I’d start there.
If she’s interested in fitness, you could potentially loan her the funds to get certified as a personal trainer so she could get a job at a local gym. From there, she could build a practice and if desired split out into her own thing. Probably won’t clear 100k but may help close the gap a bit.
If you’re ok with the light at the end of the tunnel, and if she doesn’t mind working the hard hours that come with independent work, then that could be an option. Other things to think about (again without knowing the specifics of your situation)
- online acquisition channels / instagram
- relationship building / getting clients to refer friends
Generally cities have certain gyms that are more posh than others, which will likely pay more and have a different type of clientele.
Also completely agree with the other thread about how to approach the conversation!
Are you planning on marrying her? If you are, stick it out and maybe give her some career coaching tips and/or hire a business coach to help her take her passion to the next level. If you don't know if you're going to marry her then...honestly I would start thinking of what the end game is and how it will impact your future
Thank you for the recommendations, yeah marriage is definitely the goal but still being so young I feel we've got a couple years before that.
We're friends with other couples who are both bringing in 100k+ and so I can definitely get envious which I'm sure she can notice. I think it may partially be immaturity but I feel like I can set too high of expectations on her like that.
Doesn't mean she shouldn't still be working to take her passion to another level, but not everyones passion/profession pays that well. And money isn't everything.
Remember when you marry someone you marry more than just a pretty face and the things that come with it. Even though she doesn’t enjoy being a SAHM it seems like it’s one of her few choices with her levels of commitment to a job.
Obviously not saying to dump her but if you’re considering LTR in terms of marriage it’s important
Understood, but this even poses a larger question to me. To me a SAHM is not appealing other than the benefit with kids but only until they are school age.
I probably just haven't seen it first hand since being in an early 20s relationship, there's no sense of ownership with where we're living currently.
But we are building a house that'll be done next month. You may not know but what does that transition to a SAHM look like? I know there are some women who are just natural care givers and have that personality, but is it often when they become a Mom and have that natural calling to care and support?