How to let go of perfectionism? All through school I struggled with it (I'm very type A if you can't tell) and now it's impacting my work. I'm less confident than I should be about my own work, and almost feel like I'm micromanaging the rest of my team. How can I let go of wanting things to be perfect and learn to delegate better?

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Lots of times it can stem from insecurity around your own skills/work or go hand in hand with imposter syndrome. I would try to figure out what skills or work makes you feel less confident and see if practicing those things or brushing up on those skills makes it better. Sorry you're dealing with this.

I realized that nothing will ever be "perfect" there is always room for improvement or criticism. Driving yourself crazy over perfection when it doesn't exist will only make your job harder. Do the best you can with what you have in the moment and keep moving forward.

This is something I struggled with and made a conscious effort to work on, and I think I’ve come pretty far. A few things that have helped me (some may be easier than others to actually implement in your life):
Putting things in perspective - this is a big one. It can be at the small level of “how likely is it that this small detail will have a meaningful impact” or at the larger level of “there are people whose failures can be life-or-death situations. At worst, this product being less than perfect will be an annoyance in someone’s day”
Overall self esteem: if I fail at this task/project, I’ve had enough successes to know it’s not a reflection of my worth, and that I will be able to recover
People around me: I’ve surrounded myself, intentionally and unintentionally, with fewer people who also have perfectionist tendencies.

Final thing- opportunity cost. What else could I be doing with the time I’m spending agonizing over these details?

I've adressed this before with my therapist and it has really helped me get to the root cause of my perfectionist tendencies and gave me pointers on how to deal with them in a healthy manner. I highly suggest you see one, too. It'll be worth your while, I promise you.

I feel you. What you're feeling right now is valid. It takes time to accept that we can never be perfect all the time. We just have to try our best.

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