I am an A type. I don’t make mistakes. I don’t under deliver. All “i”s are dotted and all “t”s crossed. And I expect yours to be too. But ...(continued in comments)

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....workload is so insane right now and I have a little one at home with a struggling marriage and I am screwing up everywhere. At home. At work. Everywhere. I’m lucky if I am wearing matching shoes when I leave he house. There is just no time. And I am exhausted. So exhausted. I just want to lock myself away with my child and call it a day. Ps - can’t quite and workload isn’t goin to change anytime soon. I feel stuck.
But at least I have my lo 😍

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I’m with you. I am you. Highly recommend deciding what you’ll give a B grade, C grade and D grade. Everything is temporary but not everything can be an A right now. For me A is a few key projects at work, peace of mind and presence on the weekends with my kid, and social time with my husband and friends. Everything else including my wardrobe, appearance, health, apartment is a B or C at best 😂

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I feel you. Big time. My youngest is almost pre-school age and I’m starting to get more drive back at work. But to be honest, in the earlier years, I had to get comfortable with working to other people’s standards not my own high standards. It didn’t feel good, but it got me through.

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Also if TLDR; just remember Cs get degrees. 😆

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I hear you, I went through the same thing. I found that the answer is empathy over perfection. Be in A in some areas some of the time. But being an A in all areas all of the time? That was never sustainable and highly subjective. You probably weren’t an A in every area all the time, and if you were, you weren’t being challenged.

But this is a great time to re-evaluate. Forgive yourself. Be messy sometimes. Extend empathy to others under you who cannot be As all the time either. Evolve and grow, you sound like you’re already on the right path by acknowledging that being an A all the time is not sustainable.

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I’m just here to say I’m in the same boat. Try not to beat yourself up about it. Chances are your doing a much better job than many others in your shoes who don’t have a kid or partner

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Try setting boundaries. Over communicate what you can and cannot do.

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Hang in there, things will get better again

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