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It’s ok to be an introvert. You have a lot of other strengths. But try taking small steps. One good conversation a week. Then two. Etc etc
Start with 1 on 1. Then after 3 months you will be comfortable doing groups
Read the book “I’m Sorry I’m Late, I Didn’t Want to Come.” The author had similar challenges as you and shares some really great strategies to better engage with others at work, at parties, etc. Its an easy, fun read.
Is being friends with your colleagues really that important? I mean, I get that networking plays an important role in this industry, but you don't have be BFFs with your coworkers if it makes you feel uncomfortable. Maybe start by focusing on public speaking. Take a speech course or join Toast Masters. Overcoming that hurdle may subsequently help you get over your social anxiety as well. Good luck!
It's totally fine to be an introvert, as EM said! You don't need to be BFF's with your coworkers - meet friends through MeetUp or other groups that you actually have something in common with.
Find friends outside of work. This is a dog eats dog world and colleagues are rarely real friends. Networking is a different thing and surprisingly also very transactional when doing it internally. People don’t care about you unless you’re bringing them business. It’s a little better externally.
One thing I found incredibly helpful is to find commonalities between coworkers you want to be closer with. Things like being from the same city / state, being introverted, both like a similar brand. When you establish that common point of connection you find it a lot easier to strike up conversation.