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OP are you content being "alone"? Do YOU want a relationship, or do you just *feel* like you should be in one?
Not everyone is made for relationships, and that's ok! There is nothing wrong with being a loner. You should feel secure in knowing what you want, even if it is "no one" - at least for the time being.
I don't think you should settle for someone or something you don't want. It may be fine in the short term but may easily become stressful and miserable in the long term.
Ask yourself what you want and what makes you happy, and move towards it. And this may sound corny, but once you find the "right" person for you (if they exist and it is what you want), you'll know ♥️
Lastly, and sorry this is a terse way of saying it, but if you truly feel like you want love but "don't know how to live", consider trying therapy. Maybe there is more that you can do for yourself that will open you up to dating more. Good luck babes!
I learned being gay to some people is a conflict with in your soul, as in time one will never find love!
I state this because I myself grow up from childhood between six, seven forced to be gay from catholic school i attended!
And now I am forty a successful geneticist m.d. and will never find love, due to my past!
Just find yourself
Eventually the person who falls in love with you, and whom you settle for, is going to realize the feeling is not reciprocated and will want something more.
You need to love yourself before you love anyone else, otherwise you will be filled with frustration and confusion
Rising Star
You might be asexual. What’s been your longest relationship? Do you have a desire to hookup?
I’m similar to you in the sense that I find a lot of guys who are interested in me but I often feel like I’d be settling for them. But I know from past relationships that I’m capable of love.
He wasn’t the one for me and didn’t want to settle
If you settle for someone you don’t love you might feel more alone. I am in the same boat not sure if I will ever find love but I feel like I need to put more effort into finding it. 36F
There is nothing worse than feeling alone with someone else in the house. Don’t settle, things will happen when they happen. If you think this is more psychological, then seek counciling.
Don’t settle for someone, that is not fair to them. The person you choose to be with deserves to be loved as much as they love you. If you haven’t found that love yet, you just have to keep looking or be content with not being in a monogamous relationship.
Here is from my recent favorite movie - Half of the life is in the confusion of what we even want. We don’t take the right decision on time and hope for something better, and we end up choosing a safer option.
Then we spend the rest of the life swinging between”I wish” and “what if”. Deep down the heart knows what it wants, it even sends you signals. We just forget to listen to it.
This gives me hope for waiting for the one.
That’s just depressing.
What is your type
True I am ready but I need to feel that love back
This is why he doesn’t have dates.
Maybe you are in the NPD spectrum, you get your thrill from the chase but it’s over after that. I’m in a similar boat, it’s difficult to cope with it when you are aware, so I have been avoiding romantic connections since my divorce. I was married for 13 years before, it lasted that long because I traveled a lot with work, but it became miserable after Covid. Seek help from a therapist that knows how to treat NPD, there are lots of quacks out there that don’t and just want to make you feel guilty.
I don’t know OP. I’d just dial up a bottle of Jack Daniels—at least you’ll be unconscious by the time you start to take yourself seriously. Just have fun. Buy stuff, go on trips. That always works for me. But I’m perpetually in love—I hate being single. I haven’t been single since I was 21. Quite a few guys, but never single.
Interesting article from this morning’s NYT. I guess it comes down to cash: https://www.nytimes.com/2025/08/24/business/income-dating-relationship.html?smid=nytcore-ios-share&referringSource=articleShare
Are we the same person? I was thinking about this yesterday… how many chances I’ve had with guys I’ve pushed away. For me, it’s usually been friendships that turned into situationships and the other person wanted more.
Hi twin 👋
Baby I am single let us try 😜,I am in Toronto
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