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I had this happen. A long time friend just started having no time for me and as I stepped back, I realized that it was a pretty one-sided relationship. When I couldn't help her with the last couple requests, she moved on. Personally, I'd let it go. If people really care, they don't make you jump through hoops.
Yes, 100% to the last line
Also we live very close to each other (20 mins apart) so it shouldn’t be too hard to coordinate a quick catch up
I would also let it go and not force it. Don’t go out of your way being the only person putting in effort. It’ll just make you feeling worse. Whatever reason there is, it’s above you and not your responsibility to pull it out of her.
Thanks, this is what I needed to hear! She put in effort in the past but the last several months it’s only been me so I’m not going to force it. It’s not my responsibility to figure out what’s going on like you said
If this is a really important relationship to you then have the conversation “hey I value our friendship and haven’t seen you in a while, anything we can do to keep in contact?” Or if more of a fair weather friend then let it go. Sometimes people have a lot going on and drop relationships.
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I would let it go; I had a friend who was very self-centered and only had time for me when it benefited her.
She's finally crossed the line with her rudeness and selfishness when I let her stay with me for a few days while she attended a wedding in the city I lived in, and I cut ties with her. She then went around with a sob story that she had no idea why I wasn't talking to her and I just said to mutual friends, the fact that she doesn't know is the problem. You know what she's like, and I'm sick of dealing with it. I have no regrets, and a stress I didn't realize I was carrying around every time she contacted me was lifted.
If she is a long time important friend. I would just put it in her court rather than just end communication. You never know what is happening in her life. So I would say, I would love to catch up, but you seem really busy, so when the smoke clears and you have time call me. If she never calls, then she never calls. But if she is so underwater she doesn't even see she is being flaky, you left the door open. You aren't the one who "just disappeared".
However, that would be the extent of my effort. Since it hasn't always been one sided, I would exit with an open door.