I joined a group with other black people who work at my firm. This Saturday, they planned a meet-up at a bar in the early evening. It’s unofficial & not sponsored by the company. I am the only black person on my team, so I know none of them will be there. Given this information, what would you wear? In my mind I feel like I need to find something cute enough to pass in a bar setting but still professional enough, since technically I’m still around coworkers. What do you guys think?

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Also, be cautious on the first meet-up with what you say and how you interact with everyone there.

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Thanks! I’ve met up with some for brunch once, but it was easier to be brunch cute for me than bar cute haha. Everyone’s really nice but I never get overly comfortable around people from work. You never know where you’ll see them again.

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Agreed. Not business casual but cute/casual and modest enough to be around colleagues.

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Just updating everyone! Thank you guys for chiming in with your . There was a large range of what people were wearing, but it was mostly casual. I ended up wearing jeans and I’m really happy I did.

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Just be comfortable what you would wear with your friends it's not a work event enjoy yourself

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