I just got invited to a partner’s wedding, and apparently half the office is going. On one hand, it feels like a big gesture and maybe even a networking opportunity. On the other, I can’t shake the feeling it’ll be awkward, like I’m just a work guest crashing a very personal event. How would you approach something like this?

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If half the office is going, how awkward can it be - hang out with them, and pretend it's basically a more fun work event. It'll be great, don't over think this.

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If you have a good relationship with them, it can strengthen it. If not, your absence won’t be a career-killer.

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Yeah wtf are you talking about. Hang out with coworkers you like and make friends. Also, if there’s an open bar that makes your choice even easier

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Agree - wtf

You got invited - the partner is paying hundreds of dollars for you specially to be there. The partner wants you there.

Go and enjoy yourself.

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To call it a “networking opportunity” is weird. It’s being a normal person with coworkers.

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Go use the part of your brain that loves people and go and enjoy some free wine and food- enjoy the networking

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If the partner invited half the office, either he/she cares about them all in a personal way or wants to flex and show off an elaborate wedding (or maybe both). Either way take the win and go enjoy the food and entertainment and hopefully an open bar. Save the overthinking for crafting your next nuanced legal argument or something more worthy of your brain cells.

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Show up, get blackout. Insist on giving a toast. Claim the partner physically harassed you for years. Hit on the newly wed bride. Ask the partners mom to dance, then drop her and laugh hysterically.

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Make an appearance, say congrats, then if it gets awkward you can duck out.

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If you like the partner and other people going, then go. It will be fun. If you don’t like these people then say thanks for the invite but you have a prior commitment. My guess is it’s a huge wedding and won’t be awkward in the least.

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