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If you want another healthy baby, don't wait.
Yeah I tend to agree with this perspective. I had my first at 32 and second at 34 (almost 35), kids are almost the same age as yours. Was initially debating whether or not to have a third, though we likely won’t.
If you can stomach having another (3 under 5 is no small feat, lol), I would try sooner than later to minimize likelihood of a complicated pregnancy or health issues. You’ve waited 18 months since your last, which is great — supposedly that’s the perfect minimum duration between pregnancies for recovery / likelihood of a healthy pregnancy.
Agree with others on this thread that it is best to get pregnant sooner rather than later (given you have enough support in place to support the raising of the children). I have two under 3yo and am 40yo. We reviewed the statistics on the risk of genetic issues in eggs from a 40yo woman and decided to close up shop. I feel so lucky I was able to have our two kids but am currently mourning not having more. My husband and I talk about how it is too bad we didn’t meet each other sooner.
This is a fairly famous/widespread graph that was first shown to me by a genetic counselor. So about 25% of eggs are genetically normal when a woman is 40yo. Of course this is “in the aggregate” and not specific for every woman, but there is no way to test egg quality before doing an egg retrieval or becoming pregnant.
Most bad eggs result in a miscarriage but not all do. I am just averse to taking chances because I have a cousin with a severe genetic disability, which is not heritable, but seeing how much care he requires and how hard it has been for his parents, we don’t want to chance it.
Additionally I was pregnant earlier this year and had a miscarriage, all during the downfall of our marriage. I very much want a second, and age is just a number. The fertility assistance available today is amazing
I was already too late for egg retrieval technology at 37. Every woman’s biology is different.
If you start trying now and have another baby a little closer together, it might be a little hard, but you'll be fine. If you wait, and then have hard time getting pregnant, you'll probably always wonder if you shouldn't have waited.
I had my first at 40 and my 2nd at 44 and juts turned 45 recently. Baby is about 7 weeks old right now. I know age is always a factor but we wanted one more and decided to go for it. All is healthy and I don't regret it. I'm exhausted or course but luckily my body could handle. Go for it if you de certain you want one more.
Got pregnant with my only child at age 43 (44 when born) after we gave up trying. I wouldn’t trade him for the world, particularly because his dad died 4 years later, but I regret only have one (would have liked two) and really don’t recommend waiting this long. It is really hard being over 60 with a teenage boy, particularly as a single mom.
I had my first at 37. Im 41, going thru a divorce, and planning to do an egg retrieval and sperm donation after it’s finalized in order to have a second, hopefully by 42. So, you’ve got time.