I recently got a match through family friends. The boy is a Loco Pilot in Indian Railways, working in my hometown. I am an IT professional with 5 years of experience, currently based in Bangalore. Post marriage, I may need to look for remote IT roles and stay with my in-laws. I’m concerned about career growth and work-life balance. Any loco pilot wives or people in similar situations, please share your experiences and advice.

I’d really appreciate your experience, challenges, and suggestions.

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Not wife of loco pilot but my parents are looking or guys for me.
I decided not to compromise things that i dont want to compromise for.
Like my job at present.
Recently i got proposal from a guy who has startup in another city and my family asked me if i will be willing to shift there and work remotely coz in that city there is no IT companies.
N I said no to that coz I am not sure of how it would work out for me if i marry the guy where I am forced to take only remote jobs.
Also they said if I leave my job the guy is wealthy enough to take care of me... but I do not believe those words of anyone so left this situation.

Also since you are in arrange marriage market.... you will get taylor fit guy if you patiently set your expectations, and compromise on things that you can only compromise on.

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I would suggest don’t go with this option,i married a loco pilot who before marriage said he will take transfer in one of the common IT cities but after marriage started forcing me to search remote job by saying he is in govt job which is bigger thing than private It job..i worked in top MNC company so i decided that i can not sacrifice this thing for him.These are scams boys doing nowadays.thinks twice..

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Thanks for the reply as currently I am in the same phase of choosing a so called correct guy for marriage and sometimes my decision gets shake so

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Girl no. Government employee in hometown just no. Stay back in Bangalore and marry someone who works in the metro.

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Mismatch of job profiles .. if you are career oriented then think twice and may be give this a pass. Discuss with him on how you both wil adjust .. otherwise it will be difficult

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To be honest once you shift to a place on remote basis you will be left with very few choices, you will have to stay at same company for years .. it will be good for family life but your career will suffer. I am working from home since last 6yrs now i do not have that option anymore but looking at kids and husband I myself will have to adjust either find new remote job or travel more than 100kms every day..

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I am stuck in same situation

In my opinion check how the person is if he is understanding and has a progressive mindset towards you say yes , rest can be managed. It’s tough to get good people and marriage equation depends only 10% on you and rest 90% on boy how he navigates every situation through. Make your dreams clear and if he aligned he will make it happen

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