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Did I write this? I’m worried my partner might see this and think it’s me
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I think it depends on how committed you are to the relationship. I am in the camp that once you say “I do”, it becomes a life long partnership, and you support your spouse through thick and thin. Now, obviously divorces are common and couples grow apart for various reasons, money is usually a big factor in many cases.
Personally, I am also the breadwinner, my wife is a stay at home mom with 2 kids, she is also the main caretaker for my elderly parents. In my case, although I make all the money, I think my wife’s contribution to our family is significant also, just in a different way. Thus, everything we have is jointly owned.
That’s tough, a spouse with no career ambitions will certainly put a lot of pressure on the other spouse, which isn’t fair. I think it’s worth having a deeper conversation and share your concerns.
You have to decide what’s best for you and how that can work for both of you. It’s a two-way street. I highly recommend having that talk and seeing how it goes. Be specific in what you’d like to do or change.
It's not clear what the issue is here, you say you're the breadwinner but you're also supporting your partner's career dreams. That makes it sound like they're not actually employed, which could be the real problem in the scenario. As for you, if you feel like you're pushing too hard to make money, just take a step back. Chances are you can adapt to that.
I would suggest working with a marriage counselor. Whoever finances come down to a mine-vs.-yours environment, it’s more than just a financial problem
Is it really the money/income imbalance, or the free-time and less stress/chaos your partner has that bothers you more? Either way, those are both sort of your issues if you’ve talked about and agreed upon your career paths. If it’s more of the time/stress/chaos scenario, is it possible to hire someone at work to help with your schedule? Bring on another advisor, an assistant, or paraplanner that can take something off your plate? If you’re getting closer to retirement age, can you start looking for your transition plan or find a buyer for your practice? If it really is the money imbalance, figure out why it’s bothering you prior to having a conversation and bring it up from a place of caring about your relationship and happiness, along with financial security. Best of luck!
My partner thinks I should be the breadwinner despite being a female. He got let go 2 years ago and is not even looking for a job thinking that I make good money and that's enough. Should I break up? He is also pushing me to get married to him?
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