Just got feedback on an observation that left me feeling... deflated. How do you separate constructive criticism from taking things too personally?

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Take it with a grain of salt. Don't internalize it, and try to understand their point of view from their criticism. Determine the points you think don't apply, and try to take the things you think matter from it. It's usually just business, and it's never personal. If you have reason to believe it's personal, than that's a different topic for a different time lol

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I think these evaluations are garbage. We had a social worker who received 'highly effective' evaluations for 6 years in a row (we don't have that category anymore). She was assigned to a school this year that had a ton of trauma, homelessness, and dysfunction. She was pulled from that school at the end of October bc she couldn't handle the problems in the school and was moved to a very easy assignment. Is she truly a highly effective social worker? Hmmmmm

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Unless it is truly useful criticism, ignore it. Sometimes they find things wrong, just to find things wrong. Just remember, they are only there for one moment and are basing their entire opinion of you on one lesson. That would be like a car salesman failing to sell one car and the dealership saying he wasn't a good salesman.

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I tend to be sensitive about stuff like this too, but then I try to remind myself that I try to teach my students to accept constructive criticism, so it's something I need to learn to do better as well. It's a work in progress.

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I guess it comes down to how well you know the kids vs how well does the evaluator. Little Jack is acting like a total jerk; you know Jack and know if you can redirect him he’ll be okay. You know if you get upset or forceful, he will explode. The evaluator doesn’t know that, and you get marked down for not sending him to the office or getting on his case right away. There’s nothing you really can do. If you start telling the evaluator about Jack, they’ll think you’re just trying to get a better score.

The best thing to do is to step back and look at your performance objectively. Replay the class or scenes mentioned in your head and your part in them. What could have been done differently? It can be hard, but think if you were the evaluator: what would you say about your performance if you were the one evaluating?

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Also you could let your evaluator know and get it on record about students that have regulatory issues and how you address them to benefit the whole class. You would do this in your pre observation conference.

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I can hardly take critism without letting it hit me in the heart and mind.

I am so sorry to hear that OP. We have cretainly all been there I can tell you that much. I think it just gets easier with time and the longer you have been doing it.

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