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[query] Is it a good idea to say a firm No due to medical reasons to a new night shift project I'm hired in?Accenture
I recently got a night shift project (2 days ago) that requires me to work from 10:30pm till 7:30am
I'm not comfortable with these timings and I'm thinking to ask my manager to put me on Bench (Due to medical reasons that involve mental health)
Is it a nice idea to say a firm No to a new project I'm hardlocked into, due to night shifts?
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Take it and figure it out along the way. The money gives more flexibility and you will just be more selective with how you spend your time. Get a house cleaner and someone to help with food. That way, when you are home, you can be focused on spending time with your little ones. As you get more senior, you use the money to buy more time. I have three kids and I have handed off most household chores, but I make it to almost every school event and important thing to them. I am highly selective with how I spend my time and a busy executive.
Take it. Your kids are too young to remember anything right now. I would say 5 and 7 are a more important age where they will truly remember!
As the mom of a graduating senior who worked A LOT when she was very young, I will say that I have regrets. No, I was not a high level executive. Instead I was fighting my way up the ladder while getting a bachelors and Masters Degree (both after she was born). She has turned out great and has great work ethic. However, I missed lunch, field trips, etc and wish I had been present more in her life when she was younger. What others have said is true, she has no memory of me being absent from so much, BUT I do.
Maybe kids will need you more later but what about your current need to spend time with them? Everyone says the early years are precious and this time never comes back. Looks to me you are hands on parent and hence this dilemma … one can say you can always earn more money but this time (0-5 yrs) - the growth milestones, the innocence, the unconditional love and forgiveness. If you believe in yourself, you will find an opportunity where you wont have to think twice. Good luck!
Take it. You are going to be drained but you will rise to the occasion. Growth happens when it happens. If you wait for the perfect moment it may never come. Imagine to worst case scenario of taking the job. Create an action plan for that and just go for it.
Just came here to say that there’s no right answer and no one had the right to judge you for whatever decision you make. I’ve struggled with this same thing and the decision is very personal. When I was making this decision I felt like no matter what i did, I was going to let someone down, and it’s not fair that working moms have to feel like this. We support you either way!
Sounds like you’ve gotten to the level where you should be negotiating your contract based on mutual satisfaction. Don’t think of it as “getting a new job” think of it as leadership. If they give concessions you want, what performance guarantees can make - they can count on you for …
Your starting assumption is working moms need concession - why? They are the best performers/ muktitaskers. I hope ‘CEOs’ like you realize that its not a give n take relationship anymore. Its about having a community , a tribe at the workplace where folks have each other’s back
Congrats! Depends on how much it will impact your WLB and what that is worth. Also, how meaningful of a difference is this $150k and what are your financial goals? If your kids are in daycare, an extra $150k can get you a full-time nanny and other help like cooking and cleaning. You might be working more but maybe that’s offset by less work at home. With babies at home the only way I would switch jobs is if I could retire my husband, so my price is $500k more, and even with that it would need to be my dream job and I’d still want to be home 3 nights a week on average.
200k vs 350k. Our current hhi is 650k so we don’t need it per se but would be an obvious and positive next steps on my career I wouldn’t think twice about if it weren’t for babies. Would definitely up the outsourcing.
Curious what the meal outsourcing looks like in your family? How does the home chef work? It would be a huge weight off us both not to think about food and have healthy home cooked meals meals.
I would take it but do have an open discussion with whoever helps with the kids as they would likely need to help more.
I can’t assume that OP is married
He gets paid double what I do so I think I’ll still be stuck with drop off and pickup which could be stressful with work hours but I might need to outsource that. He’s otherwise helpful with meals, bedtime etc but his work is def more important than mine. Not sure what level of parenting I’m ok to outsource. It would be sad to me to have to outsource that bc I feel like it’s outsourcing parenting.
We’re happy now and feel financially stable. A 75% increase would be nice for sure but at what point is it just greedy to hardly spend time with babies. It’s basically 2 hours a day now and that’s with 9-5 hours. Less parenting would feel egregious but could definitely outsource remainder of home tasks.
Thanks this is very valuable perspective
Trust your gut.
Go for it!!! Do not hold back. I’ve got kids and trust me, you can do it.
Just came back to say I love the support in this thread! Us working mamas can do it! The business world needs us powerful, multitasking, super women!!! 🙌🙌🙌🙌