Really struggling. My marriage looks like it’s heading to divorce. We are in couples counseling, about a month in, she told me yesterday that she didn’t want to go counseling anymore. But today she would consider going one more time. I feel like I’m losing my mind in waiting for her decision. We have 2 kids and I just want us all to have a chance to stay together.

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I just got separated and I feel relieved and happy. Also have two kids. Do they see you fight? You might role model better behavior and be happier parents for your kids if you’re not together. Just a thought.

They did but we’ve worked on that and it’s been much better. Did you initiate?

I'm so sorry that you are struggling. It feels that you are ready to try harder to keep your family together but maybe she is less willing? Could it be that counseling is awkward for her or that she feels she isn't being heard or that things won't change? My spouse is not a fan of counseling so we have found it to be more productive to take time to sit down together and exchange written lists of what we more of, less of, and what needs to stop or change. We talk together about those things and then we work on them for each other. See if she would try that with you. We run our own sessions basically and the process alone improves communication. If we

Hi EY, it’s great to see you’re attempting to work in your marriage. Have you asked her how she feels counseling isn’t working for her? Have you asked her how she feels about the marriage? Why she feels things are not “workable”? I know people are different and many adults don’t quite build the skill of self awareness and communication but anyone who claims to want to be in a relationship (of any kind) needs to exercise that muscle.

Maybe flip the script. Move toward the benefits of cooperating if the time comes. We have friends that have been married 37 years. They were on the divorce train and in therapy. Their therapist brought up the idea of working on coparenting (she too want to call it quits). They decided to proceed with that new direction. They stayed married a back

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