My old employer asked me if I wanted to come back to the company as a manager. The pay will likely be much better and the position holds more responsibility than I’ve had before, so overall it would be a step up. The issue is I left the company because of an abusive manager who constantly put me down and made me feel like I wasn’t doing anything right. If I come back I’d be working under her again. I’m torn because the opportunity is great but the stress was awful. Continued in comments…

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Are you serious? Why would you put yourself through such torture again? For the love of money and status, your willing to be abused again. You can't be serious.

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how senior is she? maybe it’s worth asking for a different manager this time around.

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It’s your turn for you to be the abusive boss 😂

All jokes aside, I would seriously consider it for the following reasons.
1. It is a title pivot (titles mean nothing but looks good for resume/future)
2. Having more responsibilities may be stressful but you now can focus on bigger pictures and also more fiscal flexibility for yourself.
3. Since you’d be a manager, you can always go to the company and file grievances if she continues the behavior again.
4. If the stress is too unbearable/lack of Work Balance, You can always take this tenure for the next opportunity; in reference to #1.
5. “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take” - Michael Scott, Wayne Gretzky.

Good luck OP, hope I provided some insight.

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love this:)
OP, I love your ambition and wishing u the best! Deep down, you KNOW what the right choice is😌

Is the company aware of why you left? How did they respond to the issues while you were there? Is there any way the new role could report to someone else?

If I were in your shoes, I would assume the company will respond the same way now as they did then - I.e. if there was no help/support for you or no repercussions for the abusive manager, there still won’t be if/when it happens again. Likewise, I would not assume the manager has changed that much. It’s possible, but most likely in times of stress they will revert to the same abusive behaviors (unless they faced repercussions and had coaching that resulted in the supposed change). There’s also the risk of them slipping back into an established dynamic - they always related to you in a certain way, and they may naturally fall back to that same (abusive) way.

If you don’t NEED this job right now, I would caution you away from going back to an abusive environment. If you do need it (finances, etc), I would encourage you to continue looking elsewhere after accepting the role - if the manager is really better then great, you can stay, but if she’s not you won’t have fallen behind on finding something else.

Career growth matters, but never as much as your health and well-being.

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Don’t go, people will be good for 5 days and after the weekend they will come back to their real avatar.

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Continued from above…
I’ve heard she’s not as bad as she used to be but I’m not sure that’s really true. I’ve been applying for other jobs and not getting a lot of response, and none hold this level of responsibility which is the only reason why I’m considering going back. The company itself is great also. Please help!

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Don’t do it. Keep looking for another position. You will find something eventually.

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Don’t go back and subject yourself to that nonsense because it’s why you left in the first place! Be better! You are worth more than that!

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Don’t do it.

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