Senior Director, M, 48 here. For the first time in my life I feel so burnt out. I am normally very ambitious, motivated and hard working, but lately I feel so tired and unmotivated to do anything at work. The only reason I dial in (we are all remote) is so I can pay the bills and send the kids to college. When Monday hits, I am already thinking of the weekend.

I hate to feel this way and would love to hear from others who may have gone through this period in your life.

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I feel the exact same way. I’m just going through the motions and not being mentally stimulated right now. My kids are young, and I wish we could afford for me to be a stay at home mom for a couple of years.

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Feeling this so much. Zero motivation.

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Quit my high stress consulting job at the end of last year because I no longer could work for unethical people. Took a job with friends I’ve known for 20 years because it was psychologically safe and would give me time to figure stuff out. I am bored beyond belief and can do in 10 hours what they want me to do in 40. I am trying to remind myself to take advantage of the time and opportunity to reflect and really think about my next move. Sharing this because it could be a strategy for you. I’ve learned to appreciate that I do t have to be going 150% every single moment of my career. This was definitely a lateral or a step down to give me time. Just an option…

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47 here, been there and recovered. What has helped:
- talk to a psychiatrist and don’t refuse the help of pills to rebalance the chemicals in the brain
- work with a professional, experienced career coach to see again that the universe of options is vast
- remind yourself daily what a blessing it is to still be healthy and able to do this work, and to have a job like this (many would like to but are not good enough to get it)
- and yes, think about the $/hour or day or week etc that you make by doing what you know how to do well so that you can pay bills, kids college etc
Finally I managed to emerge from very dark depths following a crushing divorce. There is hope if you’re willing to come out of this state.

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step 0: blod test for hormones, vitamins and minerals including: thyroid, vit D, iron, ferritin, magnesium, cortisol, glucose, and sex hormones.
step 1: recharge your parasympathetic system. it means go and lie as potato on a beach or to watch mountains from spa.
step 2: define what will be ur resilience pillars: trainer in tge gym? healthy eating? sleep hygiene? social connections?
step 3: Once previous steps are done, think about psychologist or coach to facilitate your transition to a new you

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By any chance are you female? If so, it could be a symptom of peri-menopause. If you're a male, what everyone else said :)

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Also test your testosterone.

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Same here (40M, Married, 2 Kids FWIW) and I think it’s largely due to the fact I have zero interest in what I do for a living. No passion whatsoever in the topic and don’t see a realistic path to bridging myself over to something I might actually enjoy without wrecking my finances.

So, I just maximize the weekends with family and focusing on my own personal hobbies and try to stay focused on an early retirement.

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I do the same thing. Focus on family time, personal hobbies and goals. At this point at 42, I feel stuck and I will consult for the rest of my life.

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Volunteer somewhere that aligns with your values…dogs, homeless shelter, park cleanup, art museum…it’s nice to have that to look forward to during the week.

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Burn out is pervasive in consulting. Are industry workers experiencing the same condition?

yes, from politics and being bored

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