Honestly, what price misery?

I don't believe you have to be satisfied with a crap job just because it pays higher (different story if it's the difference between survival and not). Over time it'll affect your health, your relationships, and your personality.

Start looking for something else. Use the new salary as a new benchmark: you found it once, you can find it again. Focus on the tangible wins at work: what can you tell an interviewer you've done after 3mos there? 6mos there?

And yeah, find pockets of your life to make it tolerable while you're there: save up for something special, invest in something that'll get you some passive income so you're less beholden to that salary. Do not give in to the lifestyle creep.

Hating your job (or your life) 11 months a year for 1mo of vacation is a pretty sad way to be. Don't drink the kool-aid: there are other ways.

Eat at a good restaurant every night

Been there myself. Find a way out.

Can you pay for a service you couldn’t before that can be an outlet? Boxing Gym, yoga, Pilates, messages, facials, wine membership, etc. like a treat you can give for yourself for mental/ physical well being.

Plan a vacation, unplug. The job market and economy is bad. If it’s tolerable do it for a year, if it’s not, start applying.

Put in a year so no one questions a short stint when interviewing. Don’t emotionally invest. Clock in, clock out. Collect that paycheck.

there's this show called "Severance" watch it and look for theory videos. Thank me later

Sorry to hear this. Have you asked for feedback. It’s been 60-90 days since joining, get insights into how you are doing. The culture. Your fit. Expectations bs what you are delivering. Change is hard. You are likely crushing it but the adaption is what hurts.
Keep your chin up. Be positive but ask for help.

I stayed at a place for a year. Money was more than I ever made before. But the place was toxic with mean girls. At the end it wasn’t worth it for me anymore. The money didn’t matter. My self worth and mental health was more important to me than being yelled at daily.

I quit outright and spent almost the next year recovering and I realized I should have acted earlier with the warning signs.

Good luck!

Try to live beneath your current income and bank it, spend it on travel, or keep for exit padding. You need hope - hope for better. No amount of money ever cuts it for long if the job sucks.

Spite Ice creams. Order ice creams at lunch and expense back

If pay is so good, tough it out for a year. Hopefully things improve by then in the broader economy. Exercise. Throw yourself into things outside of work. Make a game of the dynamics at work. Try to win one person over at a time. Even if they’re awful. Just think of it as a sitcom and when they do awful things imagine a laugh track in your head and the “wa waaa” trombone noise.

Can you DM me where this place is that you’re working, so it can be avoided? Wondering if it’s Eversana Intouch

Same. Kinda. Well. Yeah.

I will try to get more days remote and then cheat on hours and try to simplify my job. Would do big savings and make a move away from there

I once started a job for higher pay and position and realised my quality of life would be lower if I continued to stay just for the money. I picked up on some red flags early and swallowed my pride to ask for my old job back. I left within a month and returned to my old job and am so glad I did.

Use the check. Payoff all bills. Live like a monk if possible. Build a savings nest egg of 3-6 months salary. This will take 18-24 months. Enjoy everything outside of work as much as possible. Once you have that savings you have the option to stay and keep growing your reserves or quit until you find another gig that makes you happy. In general happiness is inversely related to pay. Mo money is mo stress and mo headaches. Of course you can still look for other gigs while doing this but know that our economy is about to crash. There is going to be a lot more people on the streets. I’d take refuge, weather the storm and be ready for when it’s over.

You mentioned the money side being good, so my advice would be: A) get your long term finances in order, in case your next role is a step back - that means retiring as much debt (student loans, car payments, credit card, whatever) as possible, funding retirement, etc. so you’re in a good position financially if you move on and make less a year or two from now, use this as an opportunity to get that side of the books where you want them to be. B) work to expectations but don’t over-extend yourself beyond a reasonable level - like closer to 40 hrs than 60, things like that. C) get yourself a good breakfast, lunch and dinner - especially on days you go to the office. D) Treat yourself. Maybe get a monthly - or even weekly - massage. Get into yoga or something else to ease your stress level and help you decompress. Get a membership to a museum or the botanic garden or whatever “hobby” that serves that purpose for you. E) give yourself things to look forward to every few months, whether that’s a long weekend getaway, visit with friends, or a week or two of a dream vacation. F) Aim to stay for 12-18 months and then prepare to move on if you’re still unhappy.