There is a tradition in which the girl’s family sends clothes to the boy’s family. The boy’s family asked for approximately 1.5 lakh in cash so they could buy clothes for their relatives. Would this be considered dowry?

Unfortunately boy’s family in india are beggars under the hood of tradition when it comes to giving things to their own family people or throwing wedding parties for their own son. They expect every penny to be paid by the bride’s family.

The grooms - in few cases have a spine and stop this.

But i would say 90% of them like to also stay under the name of tradition trying to justify it is ok.

Here the bride has to take a stand and say NO.
His family his side expense to be managed by him or his family.
Her family her side of expense managed by her or her family.

It is a long way to go. For this we need to educate our sons. There is no way out.

In future they will ask more. Stop it today. Reach out if need any help. Stay strong.

I guess yes. I have seen in our system the boy buys clothes for the bride and girls side but dresses for the groom. Some gifts n clothes for both family but not for whole relatives . If they r asking for then it's a dowry type only.

Many families actually buy clothes for all the relatives. This is also normal but it’s girl’s family budget and choice how they want to give. They can take their opinion though. Strange and wrong thing to ask is money. I haven’t heard of so. Not a good sign, I too think so.

If its a part of tradition(so call in India) though its show off to relatives.
One should ask the list of relatives and no.of clothes they need.
Buy yourself from wholesale shop as per your BUDGET and give them.
Sorry to say, but family would not consider it as a part of dowry,for them its their part of reputation to their relatives to whom they'll invite to wedding.

yes.It is dowry and greediness.

Yes

Yes this is indirectly dowry only

this is a common tradition in rajasthan for bride family to give many sarees and pant shirt piece for relatives, this is a weird custom but apparently it is normal . happened in my wedding too. my parents gave it in tilak ceremony. if you are doing a love marriage do not create an issue thinking it as dowry demand. some custom are shitty. be calm and think clearly choose your battles wisely

Lol. Bhikhari hain kya tumhare in laws and unke rishtedaar. 1.5 lakh maang k kapde khareedege 😂😂

Thanks all for all the insights. This situation actually happened six months ago, when my in-laws said, “You can give us the money, and we’ll buy it ourselves.” But my parents kept postponing it, saying they would give the money soon — but they never did. The way my in-laws asked for the money kind of put my parents off, and since then, they haven’t held the same level of respect for them.

But honestly, my in-laws are quite chill — they didn’t make a big deal about it, and they just moved on. They accepted me as their own without holding on to anything.

Now that I’m living in this house, I’ve come to realize that it’s a big family, and gift-giving is a regular part of their culture. I also received so much during the wedding. It made me realize that not all families function the same way — and that’s okay.

Yeah it's dowry in the camflauge of name tradition

No in some parts it's like gift giving culture. We give one saree from our father house and recivr gold from in-laws relative/ saree or something more worthy. In-laws also give them saree from there side. Its not dowry atleast what I can see. Traditional of giving gifts from both side. But you can deny no one bothers these day to ask why. But you will receive gift as well ensure that you don't take them as well.

Yes .it's dowry. Let it be clothes, furniture or cash . All are dowry