This week, I was told to "tone it down" after taking the same negotiation approach that a male colleague on my team was praised for. Do you ever feel a double standard in sales where women are labeled "aggressive" for being direct, while men doing the same are just "assertive"?

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There’s this pressure to sound agreeable, no matter how solid your case is. I once led a negotiation that saved our client 6 figures, and still got told I should be more collaborative next time. SMH

There is a huge double standard out there. I will say though what suits one person doesn’t work for the next. If that aggressive approach is a strength and getting the job done, I would shrug off the criticism. The work speaks for itself.

My anger could never. I am assuming the person who were in negotiations with was awesome male? Because it sounds like a thing a dude would say. I would politely say excuse me, sir, I believe you recently praised so-and-so‘s name for this exact tactic. May I ask you at any point ask him to tone it down? Secretly record his answer if you can.

Wow, sorry to hear that!

OP, how’s it going?

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