We’re having our nieces and nephews in our ceremony procession but otherwise no bridesmaids or groomsmen. What would you call their roles?

Ages: 12yo girl, 9yo boy, 7yo boy, 16month girl

I’m especially stuck on the 12yo girl as she’s too mature for “flower girl” but “junior bridesmaid” is odd if I don’t have any actual bridesmaids!

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Can you just call everyone ‘bridal party members’?

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Good point! I like the idea of gender neutrality

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I'd go with something like "attendants." If you want something gender-specific, possibly "squires" for the boys and "maidens" for the girls.

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Are you naming them for the program? If so just say bridal party and list the order of procession. Or say bridal proxession and list order. Are they standing at the front of the church with you or just processing? Other than the program , I can't think of any reason to name them anything.

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Maid of honor

I have two best friends who will do some MoH things like give a speech, so this doesn’t quite fit. Thank you though!

They are bridesmaids. Traditionally bridesmaids were actually young girls, and not adult women like today.

And the boys are page boys.

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