When I was a college intern, my middle-aged male boss developed feelings for me. He confessed this to me a few years after my internship had ended. I'd considered him a mentor, so I was shocked.

But a male friend said developing feelings or being attracted to colleagues—whether at the same level, jr, or sr—is common. But something about this feels off.

Is this true for women? I've found colleagues attractive, but I've always checked myself and stopped those feelings b/c it's unprofessional.

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I’ve never developed feelings for someone i wasn’t dating. To me, developing feelings is more than considering someone attractive and pleasant.

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I think men fall in lust far too easy, women are better at setting boundaries with work colleagues.

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Good to know, that's what I thought. I'm in awe of men's audacity lol.

My older male friend made a joke to his female boss that hinted at his attraction to their junior, and his female boss politely checked him. While nothing came out of it, I was surprised that he'd even make a small joke while employed there.

I've mentioned that I found colleagues attractive to work friends, but only after my work friends and/or I have left the firm and became good friends outside of work. I thought this was standard...

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