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Found this on instagram 🙄
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Was it LA? I bet it was LA 😅
I went from a Midwestern 7 to an LA 2 overnight lol
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USA to Europe 😅 most Americans aren’t in the best of shape, so there’s not as much judgement going around. But even then I’ve had low spirits most times, I don’t even find my face particularly attractive and never felt comfortable in my own skin, to the point I’ve tattooed my entire body from the neck down just to have a different body. That probably sounds ridiculous but it’s a very common reason some of us who get a lot of ink do it...
But man, Europeans are like so fit. I imagine the abundance of affordable and accessible healthier food and all the walking and public transit keeps everyone in shape. Hoping I can move these legs more when confinement restrictions ease 😅
I know it’s really, really hard to remind yourself this, but something I literally have to tell myself most hours of the day is that most people you encounter aren’t actually paying as much attention as you think they are. I mean this in the most positive way possible, but you’re only the main character in YOUR story—so everything you pick apart about yourself throughout the day is going to feel a lot more exaggerated to you than the reality of it. And quite frankly, if the odd person does pay as much attention in the same negative way that you are, they’re not worth knowing anyway.
It’s hard in the LGBTQ community, but beauty is quite literally barely the tip of the iceberg. The community is literally bursting with so much passion and talent and kindness and creativity... whatever you perceive yourself as lacking in the appearance department, you no doubt make up for in a thousand other ways.
And at the very very very end of the day? You’re a person. And regardless of what you offer the world, every person has value.
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this is very heartfelt and uplifting to read, if this was reddit I’d give you a hug award.
Although one thing, if you’ve ever been on grindr you know there’s also a lot of racism and discrimination and prejudice going around the gay community too, which really makes my heart sink. but that app is also kind of gross and I’ve learned it’s best to stay off of it...
I know there’s plenty of great people, thanks for the boost in confidence 🥰
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And seeing that bars will remain closed for the foreseeable future, I guess dating apps is the only option but I always disliked the concept of being judged off like five pictures... lockdown hasn’t been too kind to my waist either 🥺
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I like to pretend I'm smart 🤓
I bet a lot of other folx are feeling the same way. Lean into the things you are confident about. And you’re a copywriter - you’ve gotta have a witty bio to go with those 5 photos 😉
Hang out with the bears or queers
Do you also have anxiety and/or are concerned about how others perceive you? You should give therapy a go my friend, it could help with your mindset. My self-consciousness actually ended up being a social anxiety, and a lot of the pity party was triggered because of my perception of how others perceive me (aka ugly, inferior, less than). Could be a similar boat or something there to unlock.
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kind of, im actually an extrovert and very social, but it seems, especially in the lgbt+ community, physical attraction matters more than personality when it comes to romance, and i don’t particularly find myself having strengths in that area... the self consciousness is mostly based on my physical appearance. like im the guy whose great to hang around but not romance-worthy. ive gotten rejected by pretty much everyone i’ve ever tried to approach since, forever... made great friends out of it, but :/
only had one real relationship that lasted five years, but before and after that, never had luck even getting a date