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For those tech consulting folks, what is the best EPM or FP&A system objectively speaking if your firm is not technology agnostic?
Mainly catalyst for change is overall time savings from my experience (ie, accuracy, central source of truth, agility on scenario planning).
What are other key intangible measures that you’ve seen where benefit outweigh hard costs?
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"Hey, that's exactly what I was saying before you cut me off! I'm sorry if the middle of my sentence interrupted the beginning of yours. Anyway, as I was saying…" Sometimes you just have to fight rudeness with rudeness.
People do this to me all the time and then just keep yapping. I’ve started cutting them back off or saying something like excuse one sec, I wasn’t quite done with my thought
From now on:
1. Stop sharing your ideas with your co-worker ahead of your meetings.
2. Document your ideas in a brief text or memo (“Just a quick note to share a few ideas with you all before our upcoming meeting….”) and send it to EVERYONE via a group text or email ahead of the upcoming meeting (keep the tone casual, and make sure to cc or bcc everyone attending the meeting).
3. If you’d like to test whether or not your co-worker is intentionally stealing your ideas: tell them a PLAUSIBLY decent idea (preferably an idea that you know has already been proven to be either terrible or useless) and in the meantime have a FAR SUPERIOR idea ready for the meeting, and cut them off at the meeting with “I’m sorry Brenda (or whatever his/her name is) but that idea was already tried and failed miserably, however THIS might might be a feasible solution (at which time you share with the group your brilliant idea).
4. If the behavior continues, hopefully it becomes obvious to the group, but if your boss is too preoccupied to notice, you have documentation that you can refer to and either bring to their attention or mention in your co-workers upcoming peer review. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
From now on:
1. Stop sharing your ideas with your co-worker ahead of your meetings.
2. Document your ideas in a brief text or memo (“Just a quick note to share a few ideas with you all before our upcoming meeting….”) and send it to EVERYONE via a group text or email ahead of the upcoming meeting (keep the tone casual, and make sure to cc or bcc everyone attending the meeting).
3. If you’d like to test whether or not your co-worker is intentionally stealing your ideas: tell them a PLAUSIBLY decent idea (preferably an idea that you know has already been proven to be either terrible or useless) and in the meantime have a FAR SUPERIOR idea ready for the meeting, then cut them off at the meeting with “I’m sorry Brenda (or whatever his/her name is) but that idea was already tried and it FAILED miserably, however THIS might be a feasible solution (at which time you share with the group your BRILLIANT idea).
4. If the behavior continues, hopefully it becomes obvious to the group, but if your boss is too preoccupied to notice, you’ll now have documentation that you can refer to, and either bring to their attention, or mention in your co-workers upcoming peer review. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
5. I know you like to think the best of everyone’s intentions (I still do), however I shared an office with someone I thought was my friend (I covered for her all the time, including spending hours redoing her work and fixing HER mistakes). How did she thank me: while she KNEW that I was in an office next door, fixing HER spreadsheets, I heard her tell my boss “she’s off at the cafeteria again.” I couldn’t figure out why my boss had SUCH a terrible attitude towards me, and found out too late that my office mate had been stabbing me in the back the entire time (so that SHE’D look good even though she was totally incompetent at her job).
Bottom line: try to think well of others, but watch your back.
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I have it too, infact I am deeper water because my manager does that to me! I hate it with every second of it! But what to do!
I would try something like, "Thank you. It sounds like we're saying the same thing, or was there something different you were wanting to add that I didn't catch?"
Either they will clarify that they are trying to add some significant difference that you did indeed miss (or they didn't convey well), or they will verify that it's the same thing you said. You get to either respond to what they've added, or say, "Great, I'm glad we're in agreement on that."
Cutting you off is definitely not polite, but it could be someone with ADHD who feels like they got the gist of what you're saying and is rephrasing to verify.
The comedian Sarah Cooper wrote a book about how to appear smart in meetings, and I'd recommend it. She presents, as satire, techniques to handle people in meetings, and the weird thing is that the stuff she presents for their comic value actually work in real life. Trust me, I've used some of them. Perhaps your coworker has read her book, they may be using some the techniques she describes.
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I would start reclaiming space in the moment. A calm “Let me finish that thought” or “To build on what I was saying earlier” signals ownership without confrontation. If it continues, a private conversation can reset expectations respectfully.