Anyone with a family have to travel every month or so for work? What do you do to stay connected with/help your spouse back home?

I’m away this week, have two trips next month totaling about a week, and then another week long trip in May. Will have some smaller overnights the remainder of the year and will have a weeklong international trip in the fall.

Watched one of my sons cry on the camera this morning while my wife struggled with him, and meanwhile I’m staying in literal luxury. Guilt.

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A few small things.
1. Sending affirmation text. "I appreciate you taking on the kids, I know it was a hard morning for you."
2. Sending flowers to the house just because.
3. Ordering her doordash or instacart while you're out of town. Especially if you know she had a hard morning or day. "Hey honey, I know the kids were hard this morning. Starbucks will be at the door when you get home."

Big thing.
Help! Help doesn't have to be a nanny, but have a conversation with her on what services she may need/want to help her.

Good luck!!!

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this plus send salacious messages of how ravishing you find your partner

Yes. Paid help. Either to help with morning/evenings, OR to help with the weekly domestic work (groceries, cooking, cleaning, laundry).

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As someone who traveled constantly for many years, give your spouse some grace when they express frustration with your job and your traveling. They know it’s for work and that it’s not vacation but, especially if they are home with little kids, they’d gladly trade with you. I used to get frustrated by it and tell my wife that I was working around the clock and doing this to support the family, which is the wrong response. Just let her vent.

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Following- I have a 2 year old and travel coming up for my new role

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I wouldn’t call “work” literal luxury. Even if it’s a nice hotel, you’re doing it for work not for fun, so I’d reframe that a bit in your head to help alleviate the guilt.

Unless of course the travel is optional and not required. If so, maybe try to pare back on those trips while the children are younger to help your wife, and limit it to just strictly necessary to execute your role. My partner is pretty adverse to extra work travel that isn’t strictly necessary, which I appreciate.

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This sounds awful

Give them days off whenever you can (e.g., weekend trip, or just a day completely for themselves).

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