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It’s gotta be his choice. You telling him what to do is going to make it worse….
Leave him be. When he sees you getting hotter that will motivate him.
My husband couldn't care less :D.
People don't change for others. They change for themselves.
I get how hard it is to watch your partner care less about their health than you'd like. It is. But pressure from you is more likely to cause them to dig in their heels.... Or maybe their butt into the couch.
If they ever show interest in an activity, you can always invite them to join you but that initial spark HAS to come from them. If they do join or take something up, giving them a heartfelt compliment once in a while might help to keep the motivation up.
Thanks for affirming this. I needed to hear it
This is a classic "you can lead a horse to water" scenario. He's not going to make a change unless he wants to make a change. All you can do is set a good example and keep the door to joining you in your health journey open.
You said it right!
Went through this exact thing. You really can’t do anything but focus on yourself in this case. I try to remind myself if it was the other way around, I probably wouldn’t like a lot of pressure either. Always nice to make an offer for a meal or some activity, I wouldn’t force it though. Only person you have control over is yourself.
You're right. Thanks for sharing
So, why are you wanting him to change? Does he have health conditions or concerns (diabetes, cholesterol, etc) that he needs to manage? Or are there other reasons?
If you haven’t already, you could try being more strategic about the meals you two eat together. Choose a restaurant with more healthy options (salad, Mediterranean diet, whatever your preference is) when you go out to eat together. Or make healthier meals at home, just don’t tell him the meal is healthier for him.
My spouse doesn’t listen to me on this stuff either. 😆 But if I had serious concerns about his health, I would gently encourage him to see his primary doctor for a physical… and let his doctor tell him to eat healthier and move more.
Yes, he's got high BP and blood cholesterol, which I'm sure is the result of his lifestyle. He's also overweight but that wouldn't have bothered me all that much if he was okay in his health parameters. And as you said, making more healthy meals at home has been the only way to get around to him. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
Just let him be.. and do your best to make sure he understands what his lifestyle can look like. Cook wholesome meals, move around, and invite him when you go on walks. Th rest is really up to fate.