I’m posting this here instead of my usual Big Law bowl because I’m guessing there are people here who will understand. I just need to vent. I am married to a wonderful man who has a young son. My husband is the kindest, most patient and supportive man I’ve ever met other than my dear late grandfather. He is saintly. But the chaos that surrounds him hurts me. I am the primary breadwinner and far out earn my husband and my stepson’s bio mom. I have always put pressure on myself to succeed (Cont.)

My SO had a career change, went back to school, and just started with his new job. He is struggling a bit and is very stressed out. What can I do to help?

Salam everyone, wanted to ask if anyone here is in a relationship with someone close to their age and how they’re navigating it for ex a guy being 22 and the girl being 24. I’ve been advised to find someone 3-4 yrs younger than me because that would make things smoother and there would be less fighting. What are your thoughts? Also I’m Arab and will most likely be marrying an Arab girl if that changes anything.

How do you all take care of things outside of work? The last thing I want to do after being hyper-organized at work is figuring out my budget or retirement plan or scrubbing the bathtub or figuring out what to buy at the grocery or planning a vacation. I feel so burnt out I can only just sleep on weekends and can’t bring myself to go out or even do basic self care. I feel bad putting this all on my husband and how would I even have the energy to raise kids??

Shall I send my daughter (almost 5) back to PreK/childcare center in 2 weeks when they open after thanksgiving after shutting down preemptively due to a teacher and 2 parents getting covid? My work is accommodating with my partners and my working varying hours, however, I do not forsee that ongoing much as things get busy and my daughter can’t just watch tv all day until the vaccine comes out and the population is adequately inoculated.

If you are a couple with no kids, how do you go about finding friends in the area? I struggle so much :( most of my close friends are now scattered across the country and I feel like we have no one close to us anymore. I don’t even know how we’d go about making new friends anymore!

Is it bad to spend time with your SO every weekend? We’re both busy during the week so weekends are the only time we get

My wife is taking forever to get ready for an event despite us agreeing that we would leave 30 minutes ago. Is punctuality dead?

What sort doesn’t smile when a random 2 year old in a park with big smile says hi! Twice! As a parent, I judge the kind.

Looking to make new friends. Anyone want to meet up? Hard to make friends when you work a lot.

Hi i lost majority of my money in the stock market. I married and promised my family that I will not make the mistake I made 7 years ago. Gambling. Is this an addiction I have. I keep selling stocks and taking loses buying other stock hoping it will recover but never did and sell again taking loses and buy again. It now sink in to me. I borrow personal loan hoping that the market will do k and I pay it back but I even lost that. I can't stop crying that I hurt the one I love the most my family.

I’m at an alternative school this year and the students are very sensitive, so I’m struggling with keeping the relationships positive while still being a decent teacher. I know they’re dealing with (1

Any married couples that are both attorneys? Wondering how it is with having kids- paternity and maternity leave and beyond (ie, did someone have to take a step back from work or arrangements made)?

During interview I was speaking to the hiring manager. Felt interview was going well. He seemed impressed by my answers, excited by my skills, and even gave me a tour of the office. At the end, he asked about my home life. When I spoke of my 3 young kiddos, the manager got a little taken back and replied Oh you have children? I said yes ages 3, 5, and 7. He then proceeded to ask me about daycare arrangements and if I can be reliable. Red flag as his demeanor changed and made me feel unworthy.

I accidentally overshared information about having anxiety and trouble focusing with someone who is kind of important at the company and now I regret it. She never responded and probably forgot about it but my husband told me that I shouldn’t have done that and I shouldn’t share things like that with people at work unless you are really close with them and now I’m freaking out and crying because I’m scared she will remember that and tell my boss or other higher up people.

Friends 5yo when I walk in front door:
“Jessie, do you have a baby yet? Momma says you want a family. Did you do it? Where’s your baby?”

Thanks, kid.

I showed up to the airport high asf after smoking a bong and eating 100mg of edibles my friend gave me for the first time in my life AMA

My sister wants me to pay for my father's hospitalization and related costs

My parents planned a trip to the US and never told me. My sister helped then plan. In the US, my father fell sick and had to be hospitalized. They did have travel insurance but there were still a lot of out of pocket expenses and other expenses related to rescheduling tickets, etc.

My sister contacted me once she got the bills and told me "as their son" I should be paying for everything.

Looking for new friends to hang out with in Oakland.

My old friends are getting boring 🤷🏽‍♀️🫢

Work is asking me to be in office 1x a week next year. Puppy will be 4 months old and right now I take him out to potty 13x a day. What should I do when I have to work? Work is 20m away from apartment and I can definitely come back at lunch for an hour, but should I just put him in daycare for the day? How do people with kids handle this??

A friend of mine came to the US when she was like 10. Her dad had a work visa for a big company here. Somehow, she was considered an international student. We graduated in May and (cont)....

Can some of you experienced folk recommend some good books for rookies? What are your favorites for investment strategies, marketing, selling, etc.?

When I have a bad day I drink alcohol and go to bed. I certainly don’t go around shooting people.

Received my H1 denial for Capgemini... my grace period starts next week ...
I am exploring my options for a new employer... please let me know if anyone here is hiring...

My position changed from non exempt to exempt, and now my weekly paychecks are less than I’ve paid before :( is it bad to consider leaving?

Looking for advice:
Currently an analyst at LMM PE firm (~$3B AUM) going to H/S in 2023. How can I best position myself for competitive PE roles coming out of MBA? How much does networking with firms early, developing headhunter relationships, and building up deal reps move the needle? Any thoughts on how my experience will be perceived having skipped IB?

Are there any agencies in nyc doing good creative work where creatives don’t have to work 60+ hours a week? I am looking to leave bbdo asap

Deloitte GES - how is it? What’s their reputation for the culture? Not necessarily the tax delivery group but the consultancy side

I’m looking for mentors in branding. Branding is something that I studied in my MBA days.. all that I know is what’s there in the internet. I am looking for a mentor who could take me under their wings and teach me all about branding.

Has anyone recently made the switch to in house and now feel unorganized and less productive than when billing hours? For what it is worth, I’ve received good reviews and my superiors seems to be pleased with my work. Litigation was just so task based because of needing to hit billables, so without that requirement I feel a little like a fish out of water.

We’re struggling to find a bilingual hire with experience as a community manager, so we need to look at people who haven’t worked in the field before. What skills should we prioritize?

"I can't I have a call" excuse works every single time

Hi, Let’s like each other’s post to build connections via DM. Thanks

Anybody know @interac corp job bands?

Is anyone hiring for entry-level analyst positions? I have 4 years of relevant internship experiences at reputable companies & graduated 2 years ago. Preferably business-analyst or any related entry-level analyst roles (not investment banking).

Looking at refinancing current apartment but plan to move in two years. Would reduce monthly payment ~$400, but remaining balance in two years would be ~$10k higher in two years than current plan with closing costs rolled into new mortgage. Should I do it?

Hi all - figuring out loan options. Does anyone know if it’s better to choose:
A.) a longer term loan with a higher interest rate and overpay each month (0.5% higher interest, ~300 less in payment each month)
B.) a shorter term loan with a lower interest rate and meet the monthly payment exactly

Or how to calculate the better option?

Does anyone know of any amlaw100/200s with a matrimonial law practice group? Or where I could find a list of this information? I have a friend looking in Philly and DC

Let's talk unhinged pro se opposing parties. We have one that emails the entire firm every few days with these SCREEDS that are like weird stream of consciousness accusations of baseless criminal and unethical conduct. So far there have been 2 emails already today. A GAL has been appointed and ordered to do a psych eval on this party, but is there any sense in responding in the mean time? Everything we say seems to get twisted.

How many of you have taken cases to your state court of last resort? My firm is taking a child welfare case to our state supreme court (not NY— so the actual last court.) Just curious about others’ experience(s). Very clear from the intermediate court that the panel didn’t bother to read the record on appeal. Very frustrating that my client’s last shot is discretionary when the trial court ignored my client and the one guaranteed appeal had a panel that couldn’t bother

I have an oral argument coming up tomorrow regarding a support issue. I just realized an error concerning the monthly supprt amount I arrived at in my brief. Is it a big deal if I correct it during argument tomorrow?rather than $1,005 its $825 per month

What are people’s thoughts/feelings on the out-of-office/auto-reply when an atty’s attention is focused on one matter (I.e. “I’m in a full day hearing, so my response will be delayed”). My initial reaction was: you’re not really out. You’re still doing your job, your job at the time just happens to be exclusively one case.

What did you say when dropping a client? I plan to find another FL attorney who’d be interested, THEN tell the client it’s best if she hires a new attorney (more experienced/aggressive) and refer her. Continued in comments.

Huge long shot, but has anyone heard of, or worked for, Bank Rifkin in Birmingham Michigan? I have an interview for an associate position coming up and don't know much about them aside from their website.

How much would you pay per hour to have an attorney draft motions and briefs?

Solos - how did you know when you were ready to hire a FT attorney?

Paralegal in mid size practice. Other than staying current with CLE’s (I am). What’s the best way for me to increase my billable rate?

Making the move from personal injury defense to family law/ TE. Any advice to help with the transition? I’m a 3rd year.

NY family lawyers- should a prenup address all points in the context of legal separation AND divorce? Or just divorce? Drafting a prenup and wondering what the standard is.

Can we talk about Rates?
What is your:
1) hourly rate
2) years of practice
3) size firm
4) state

My answers:
1) $350/hr
2) 5 years
3) solo practitioner
4) New York

Your best tips on managing the emotional stress/burn out in family law - let’s share!

Any Clark County lawyers? I have a procedural question about filing for a UCCJEA conference.

Hi family law attorneys! I am a divorce attorney and founder of a legal tech startup, and we are looking for advisors (specifically family law attys) in the following states: NY, NJ, RI, PA, WA, FL. We would either pay your hourly rate for advice relating to your state laws, or offer free placement on our site that is presently growing rapidly. Please let me know if you may be interested in speaking further!

Any NJ family law attorneys looking to make a move?

What do associates coming out of matrimonial clerkship (2-3yrs) make at NYC firms their first and second years?