At this point, I’m just burnt out. I’ve been asked to take a new position that isn’t exactly what I want to do, but the schedule works better for the current phase of life I’m in. My family is my priority and I should be thrilled but I’m worried the mundane work is going to be a problem for me. How do you find a balance between fulfilling work and prioritizing family?

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At this point, work is just work—it pays the bills. My top priority is work–life balance and spending time with the people I love. Everything else is just background noise.

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I totally agree. I think what worries me is that I will have a hard time managing work I don’t like to do. Financially, I need the job and the job market doesn’t seem to be too kind right now if I were to lose it.

If your family is your priority, and the new position will presumably give you more time with them, that's great. Congratulations. Don't worry about the work being mundane, you'll no doubt find a way to adapt to it.

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I’m hopeful I can adjust quickly!

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Family comes first

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Burnout is tough and not having the time to unwind before jumping into something else even if mundane can have some residual effects. It’s an ongoing process. Maybe talk to a therapist regarding burnout and this phase of your life. Also, have a plan - is there mobility in the workplace? Can you help with it or initiate a project that brings some fulfillment and flexibility? Starting off with something mundane isn’t bad but you need a plan for if it’s not what you thought or the work culture is adding to burnout and the remnants. Also think to yourself if you weren’t burned out what would you be doing and what balance do you want in life - Prioritizing family, yourself (b/c let’s face it. You can not pour into others from an empty cup), health, and your career and work backwards using the resources you have. Be real about the process with your support system because you’ll need it.

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It's very challenging but I find that's a family discussion and negotiation. What does your partner want out of life and for your children? Can you make choices like downsizing housing or other expenses to allow someone to take a home role that allows you or them to pursue a career? This can provide relief knowing the family care isn't dropping in pursuit of fulfilling work as well.

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Put on some music or podcast, nothing political or with expletives. There are a lot of chill and meditative music. Take stretch and walking breaks. These work good too. My company pays for them. Oh the best part about having to sit at a desk is if you listen to the FM radio there are always having contest and giving away tickets and other stuff beer festivals, I almost missed that part the most.

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Feeling exactly the same.. today is my last day at my current job before getting “laid off” and I’ve been interviewing and applying all over the place leading up to this, with hopes to start somewhere right away. I’ve found that places aren’t willing to be upfront with salary expectations, I have literally interviewed at one place 4 times.. in fact I left my third interview (45 minute commute one way) was 15 minutes from home and the OM called and asked if I could come back to do a SECOND tour of the plant.. and still no offer.. it’s frustrating and defeating and tbh have 0 desire to work there at all but I need something to makeup for the income im losing.

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Manager, sometimes in life's circle we must take a path of a choice undesired because of immediate needs require immediate action; what is to be taken when are on these such paths is not to complain that we are there, but to be thankful a door was opened to our immediate circumstances. So, move forward in appreciation that this company took a chance on you and give them the same energy as you would the one that would have made you smile, but did not see you at the present time. Then when you are in a better place and able to be where you desire, remember this company and leave them in a way that says, thanks for being there when no one else was; don't look back, but let it be a reminder as you continue in the circle of life, to learn how you got in the place to have to take the unwanted door, so not to have to take it again...
I hope this brings you peace and drive to appreciate what is given when you have lost what you want.
Sincerely,

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Ultimately my goal is to be more present w my family without having any financial stresses. If that’s you, work fulfillment doesn’t matter imo.

It’s not fulfillment from work, but we spend so much time there. If it’s miserable, it can be hard not to carry that home.

I would make sure that you are clear on your priorities. If so then I think the answer will become more clear

Not exactly… Being unhappy for 1/3 of my day would be really hard to just shut off and not carry home.

I have a chance (right now) to be picky and do something I actually want to do. A few would pay me less than market but I'm willing to take it to build my resume and to get paid more (than what I'm doing now.) I almost took a job that I have the skill set for, but not what I want to do. My husband told me to be picky. Family is my priority BUT not getting paid for what I want (need) is not gonna happen. We all kinda hate getting up for work...the last thing you need is to hate it more doing something you don't like/want to do. That's my take. Good luck.

Will you still be a manager? Put on Netflix like all my previous managers ever have done in their office to waste time.

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