Follow up post to my last post…My husband was laid off from the company where I also work. I am feeling really isolated / depressed about working and moving forward. I’m also getting to a stage where I’m really sad that people haven’t reached out to either my husband or myself to send well wishes or provide support. It’s like they don’t know what to say or I make them feel awkward so they don’t bother…I’m trying to focus on a few that have been supportive but it’s hard…Any words of advice? 😞

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Ask for a pay increase and then pay your husband to take work off your hands under the table? That is some uncharted territory for me. stay full of love a gratitude. Focus on what is true and good. We could have everything the world can offer, but without thankfulness, we truly have nothing at all.

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Maybe your friends are also going through a stressful time much like you are. Have you reached out to them to see how they are doing or to ask for advice?

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Remember you still have your job too, yet are struggling. It’s hard to tell how someone’s doing from the outside

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I just went through a layoff a few weeks ago. It was incredibly unexpected, and as someone who has always considered herself a great contributor to my work environments, I took it really personally.

A few things I did that helped (other than cry a bunch the first few days…):

• Went on hikes, did yoga: Helped me focus on the present instead of spiraling and ruminating.
• Listened to podcasts: Googled specifically for episodes on layoffs. They helped redirect my internal narrative and take things less personally.
• Nurtured existing relationships with ex-coworkers: Reached out via LinkedIn to say thanks to people I enjoyed working with. A few people didn’t even know right away that I had been let go. I took this this outreach in my own hands because I knew that some might probably think “Oh, she might want space.” Or “She might not want to be reminded of what happened.” Start the dialogue yourself and see where it goes. I found it to be really helpful. People were supportive, surprised that I was let go, and I left the conversations feeling like I had made a positive impact, regardless of the unfortunate outcome.

Good luck, it’ll be tough, but it’s a manageable setback, and you both will come out of it better in the long run.

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Thanks for this! I appreciate it. I think if I initiate some outreach when I’m ready I will feel better too. wish you all the best with your search thanks again for sharing this with me it’s really helpful :)

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Anyone that’s also experiencing this? People you thought would care not reaching out? Anything you can share about your experience I’d love to hear and even if it’s not strategies or advice to help…just hearing other experiences would be helpful🙏🏽

Yes they definitely know. I guess that’s the case that they don’t want to pry but to me it feels like that’s them rationalizing not reaching out. Maybe it makes them uncomfortable so it’s easier to not say anything.

The thing is it’s pretty shocked people I had friendships with outside of work are even not reaching out. It’s unique situation for me too because I still work at the company. I feel so isolated besides my immediate team. I’m trying to not think about it because it hurts. I’m getting better as each week goes by as well. :( thanks for sharing your experience I really appreciate it. It’s very helpful

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