Gay / bi men looking for serious long term stuff - how many decent matches do you normally get on hinge? Mine is almost nothing despite friends saying I have a strong profile, almost no likes overall and those I get I am not that excited about / know straight away I would not be ready to commit. Feels like there’s exactly 0 overlap between people I like and people that seriously like me back, encouraging me to quit the process.

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Are you attractive? And where do you live? Both are huge factors on dating apps.

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Im in London - very similar to NYC vibes. Not conservative (the equivalent of republicans here).

Meet people in real life. You're in London, so I assume there are a variety of organizations and activity groups for gay men. Professional organizations, community volunteering, sports, activism, hobbies (books, gaming...) and other things. Go there, and meet the people who you might not be seeing on apps.

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1. Are you being too selective?
2. How do you do on hookup apps?

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I hate to be that person again, but it’s frustrating. As a Black gay, it’s exhausting always being at the bottom. I’ve never been with a white man, but all my exes are now with white men, and it stings and it’s hurtful af.

It’s not jealousy at all - it’s just tiring hearing white gays complain about their endless dating options. I just wish people would be honest and direct about their biases. It’s whatever, I hope you find the love you deserve.

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Or contact your counterparts in Toronto, I am serious, hot and single, I am in it to win it in spite of these problems 😂

Does no one go to meet people at bars anymore?

I agree with you P1, but I’m part of the problem too because I’m too hesitant to approach guys in public unless they make the first move.

OP, not every bar has loud music though. I’m sure there are more laidback settings too where people go out?

Fwiw I'm at a very similar place (even based in London!); get on super well with folks in person which is where a big chunk of my dates originate, but dating apps are an absolute desert. No sage advice, but I guess it's reassuring to know that I'm not alone with my woes haha

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