Guys i am 40 years old, with a 2 year old and another on the way this year. I am exhausted of the grid. Thinking about quitting without a job offer. Tell me your stories if you have anything to share, how long it took for you to find a job, were to able to get the same pay or better pay, was it in the same Field? or tell me i am stupid for even thinking about this in this Market

Don’t do it, the job market is really bad right now. 200+ applications per opening. I was looking around myself just to see what is out there and it’s very competitive. If you have a nice nest egg that could get you through the next 6-7 months while you look that could work but having 2 kids with no job seems more stressful than grinding current job while looking for a new one. I also just had my 2nd in September so I feel the exhaustion with you. Just keep grinding!

Stay until the baby is born and you can take parental leave.

Make a decision on whether to return during the parental leave.

1 baby, 1 on the way and you want to quit with no plan? How is this even a question?

Even ignoring the family fact, read anything about AI right now. 50% of white collar jobs are going to disappear or at a minimum, change dramatically over the next 2-3years. Not the time to quit without a clear plan. It’s going to be a wild ride.

Crazy to leave without an offer in hand, particularly if your family is on your employer insurance plan and if you have paid parental leave available to you.

It’s risky, very risky. There are no guarantees in any market that you will get a job in 6 months. And trust me, once the countdown starts and you see your savings getting drained- your current stress won’t even compare to that. And with the baby coming, you are trading a little bit of sunshine for prolonged tornadoes

So exhaust all other options first- pto, FMLA, LOA etc. whatever options your firm offers. Maybe talk to a therapist, because that helps. Use that time to look for jobs

You will be less desirable being unemployed. Maybe take a loa instead?

I'm sorry you're going through a difficult time with your career. You're not alone. I had a similar experience although I didn't have a family to worry about. Before you seriously consider leaving the current position, I'd suggest several things for you to think through (you may have already) and discuss this with your significant other to help you both work together as a team. 1) Identify how your current job does not fulfill you and write down specifics. 2) Identify how your emotions are affected and create a list of things you can do to manage current stress. 3) Journal about your passion - areas that bring you a sense of purpose and joy and how you can transfer these areas into your calling/career path. Discuss the above with your significant other and determine what your financial standing looks like right now, and how you can successfully navigate the financial responsibilities while pursuing a career that matters to you most.

I worked in the federal government for many years and walked away because I felt unfulfilled and burnout, and God has guided me through the exit of my job. I want to contribute to society at a deeper level instead of just working through widgets daily. I'm a Christian and what has helped me most is turning to God asking for His help and direction. He knows I need a paycheck to pay bills and save for retirement. Most importantly, He knows I want a sense a purpose and I want to help others in ways I never did before. I walked away from the job before securing a new one as I have saved up enough to live for a while. During this unemployed time, I was able to use this time to take better care of myself, refocus my walk with the Lord, and praying to God asking for direction. This unemployed time has also allowed me to continue learning about topics/areas I'm interested in and think about how I can incorporate them into my field, and explore/be open to positions that are aligned with my passion and values.

I understand everyone's circumstances is different and I certainly am not suggesting you should quit your job immediately before securing another one. I do highly recommend that before you decide what to do, give yourself some room to breath and space to think, and go through the list I suggested above.

Know that you bring a set of unique skills/gifts that no one else has. Know your worth. Stay confident and have faith. You've weathered the storms in the past and you can do it again. You've got this! I wish you the best in the next chapter of your life.

Bluntly, toughen up.

Quitting without a job lined up will leave a gap on your resume. People will always wonder and be suspicious. People with existing jobs always will appear less desperate to hiring managers when interviewing. I don't even leave a gap between jobs. I complete one job Friday, start new one following Monday, that way there is no doubt that I elected to leave.

How do I put this lightly…?

Man up.

unless you plan on selling your wife and kids I’d suggest you hold out for better times because it’s rough for job seekers right now

Quiet quit and milk the process. In the meantime, look for something else and take care of yourself and your family. No one here knows what stressors you are dealing with, we all have our own and manage them as best or worst as we can. There is no shame in wanting something different. Good luck.

I’ve done it before and it motivated me to get a job. Almost a 30% comp increase - unemployed for 3 months. I felt horrible throughout the process. But I made a career switch. If I had to do it again I would have quiet quitted

Quitting is going to do nothing but stress you out more lol. Pause and think

Congratulations! A baby is a reason to celebrate. Sometimes knowing you’re going to leave and making a plan to leave frees up a lot of mental space.

Don’t leave yet. Think about the timing. If you’re tired of Deloitte, you’re done with consulting. Start looking in industry. Think about what you might like to do. Start interviewing.

If you rely on your health insurance, stay until the baby is born. Don’t mess with that this year. But also, you will qualify for leave because you’ve been an employee for a while - you may not at a new place. Or not as much. Once the baby is born, make the switch.

Don’t add extra stress to your life. I’m not sure if you or your partner are having the baby. Leaving without a job is an unforced error and a second baby is enough drama.

Good luck!

Don't quit without another job unless you have the means to take off a year or more and still be relaxed.

YOLO. I did it once and it was worth it. I would wait until you have line of sight to a few opportunities you may be interested in but then go all in. I could not do “quiet quitting” well. It took quitting to get me to spend the actual time needed to find the right next job. You need the support of your sig other and enough savings to not have to jump into any opportunity. Looking back it was scary but the right thing to do.

Don’t do it. It took me over a year to find a role worthy of leaving consulting when I had my kid. Best to muster up the discipline to set aside at least 30 minutes every day to look at roles/network/send resumes before jumping into the unknown

You may not quit. Your name is parent, not possibility.