Have you ever been told to speak more in meetings? I was told that I do but they want to hear more from me. I’m an introvert and sometimes I really don’t have anything to say, but when I do it has substance. My pet peeve is hearing one person chime in every meeting to simply repeat what the last person said and adding “I agree”…I don’t want to be that person. I’m interviewing anyway to leave soon lol but what to get your thoughts.

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Yep, been there before. I’m better at it now, but I still only speak up when I have something new to contribute. However, I’ve also gotten feedback that my points tend to be the most value add in a discussion. So, in short, my advice to you is to recognize that your opinions and voice do have value, and that they’re important, but balance that with continuing to do you. Because that is an awesome thing all by itself. 👍🏽

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Thank you, I definitely will!

Yes yes yes this was my feedback 5 years ago and was my feedback this week. I’m also introverted. I was told to ask a question by repeating something you just heard🫠 feel silly indeed

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Yes! Exactly, so talk just to talk 😭

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Sidenote they also told me to make sure I tell them when I’m overwhelmed, which I’ve done several times. I’ve been speaking up, they aren’t listening to me.

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I’ll say this, im an introvert and also have social anxiety, but my job will never know it cause i put on an “act” if you will. Sort of how like beyonce has her Sasha fierce lol.

A few questions and recommendations: are the meetings an efficient use of your time? Are these part of a project or just general team meetings? Here are a few options:

1. Tell your manager this: I appreciate the opportunities we have in team meetings to discuss important matters. I wanted to share that as an introvert, I sometimes need a bit more time to process my thoughts before contributing verbally. While I may not always speak up during the meeting, it doesn't mean I'm not actively engaged or have valuable input. I prefer taking some time to gather my thoughts and offer my ideas afterward or through written communication. I believe this approach will enable me to provide more thoughtful and well-considered contributions to the team.

2. Prepare before the meeting: if at all possible, get the meeting agenda beforehand. It will give you time to think about the topics and prepare your thoughts in advance, making it easier to share your insights during the meeting.

3. Make it gradual: so push yourself to participate more in team meetings step by step. Start by making one small contribution and gradually increase your involvement over time.

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Same, I also have social anxiety and hadn’t disclosed it either. But that’s a good consideration, finding my inner Sasha fierce lol. One thing I like about my director is that she’s observant. She noticed that in meetings, that I’m brewing and can see that I’m processing what’s being discussed.

Definitely going to take it step by step, thank you!

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I’m also introverted and get this feedback all the time. It bothers me too when people speak just say something but they’re not saying much lol so I don’t want to be that person. However, I make it a point to contribute something to the conversation in all meetings even if it’s just to say I agree with what’s being discussed. One of my mentors also suggested sending out additional thoughts after a meeting to emphasize that I was engaged even if I didn’t say much. For example, if I come across an article that is related to something that we discussed, send it as a reply to the meeting invite and tie it back to the meeting discussion.

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Def a good idea too on the follow up, I’ll try that out too! Y’all are amazing, thank you!

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