I hope he’s in as much pain as I am. The way he ended it was so cold and selfish and unlike how he was any other time with me. It was like a personality switch. I’ve never been so wrong about someone. I’m not sure how to process or recover from that part of it.

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Same boat. I have deleted him from my life. He can go pound sand. I deserve so much better

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😭 same boat here. We need to plan for revenge.

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This. Feel exactly like this.

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People start detaching and psych themselves up before they break it off with someone. It doesn’t mean he is not feeling sad or conflicted because he acted cold or matter of fact during the break up. I’m not trying to stand up for him but more give you the comfort to know that you very likely shared something special with him and meant something to him even if you feel discarded now. You are worthy of love and have been loved and maybe are still being loved by him. Breakups happen for a variety of reasons even when feelings for the other person are still very active.

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Thank you for this.

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Also, worth noting that men typically process emotions slower because they avoid them early in a breakup while women tend to process things quicker. That’s why there are so many stories of men trying to get back with someone they break up with just to have the woman tell them to F off. That is actually the sweetest revenge, to process your emotions, move on and be at peace despite this person’s rejection which will seem much more unimportant in a year or so.

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I’ve heard of that happening. The dating advice guy Matthew Hussey talks a lot about that. I hope it happens. Or at the very least a conversation in person. I just think there should be a rule, breakups can’t happen between Nov 20-Jan 1!

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I’m so sorry. ❤️ May I ask how he ended it? And are you both still in touch? Stay strong and keep your head up, it hurts now and may for awhile BUT I promise with time, you will recover.

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BCG speaks facts! Their emotional immaturity has everything to do with THEM. It’s astonishing how people lack so much self awareness.

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