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Three years. Needed to rediscover my own life. Therapy, healed. Didn’t want to drag baggage into a new relationship
I am 8 months separated and you couldn’t pay me to go on a date. Just enjoying my life and don’t want to learn about anyone else’s at this point. Any time I consider it, I get the feeling of dread of having yet another thing on my to do list. For now just enjoying what I do and travelling to awesome places.
I don’t believe there is a specific time. In the past it was much sooner for me but currently not so. After being in a relationship for 20 years, I need some time.
I started before I divorced. Perhaps the reason for the divorce but the old wife couldn’t satisfy my libido and calm all the stress I get from million dollar deals. I needed a young squeeze that idolized me
A "young squeeze"... you mean a fleshlight?
There is no simple answer. Your feel will guide you. Also consider that “dating” doesn’t have to be strictly interpreted as a process of identifying a possible lifelong mate. You can simply be with another person (and I don’t mean -just- sexually) and leave it at that. Just wade into the water and enjoy it. Don’t think about it so much. 😉
Take this with a grain of salt and to each their own…. As a happily married high earning guy in early 40s on second marriage, it would’ve been nice to stay single longer than 9 months. Take your time and enjoy it. Be thoughtful about the next long term move and any kind of future financial or child commitments.
I was 38 at the time. Admittedly I tried to rebound from it, that never works. For a year I focused on me, getting fit, and working on my mental health. I spent more time with friends and what I wanted to do with my life. I was staying with my friend who was a single mom and helped her with her son. She suggested I join a dating site. Immediately I started to talking to people. Dated a guy in Minneapolis who I saw during my biz trips, that ended. There was a guy from Florida who was asking what he needed to do to take me to dinner. I put him off for months. Long story short, he relocated to my city and we’ve been together for 14 years and married 12. I’m the happiest I’ve ever been. While the divorce was very painful, looking back it was the right thing to do. You do what feels right for you. There’s no right answer.
If dating for fun , don’t wait too long to date . If you looking for something serious, take your time . To get over someone , it’s better be under someone 😂😂
Hey-o!
What most ladies do is track me down years later from high school, college, past gf. I usually get a friend request. It usually results in a steamy weekend somewhere nice. I know it’s going nowhere, but I play along. Everyone needs a little help moving on. They are never ready, usually still a mess.
If you have kids, and get serious,think about them, too. My dad is dating, and although I’m in midlife I can’t stand her and it hurts our relationship.
That sounds stressful to have to be worried about him getting taken advantage of, I'm sorry
4 years for me. I just wasn't ready. I thought we'd get back together again. I moved on when she told me that she had been seeing someone for 6 months and was going to introduce our kids to him. That's when I woke up.
Everyone is on their own timeline. Focus on making yourself the best version of yourself first, and things will fall in place. While I'm still single, I have met many amazing women along the way.
Good luck!
Right after it gets finalized! Please don’t feel sorry for what happened. Focus on your mental and physical well-being and living your life, but don’t get into any kind of committed relationship until you are healed and ready.
The key is, have you addressed your part of the divorce? Every failed relationship is ~50/50 responsibility of both parties. So what was your part? Have you faced that? Because if you have not, you will likely get into the same pattern again and risk another failed relationship.
So the time question is around: how long will it take you to find yourself?
That’s my experience, take what you will.
You can just dip your toe in and decide to stop if it’s too much. It doesn’t have to be all or nothing. And you can change your mind later
I took 6 months to be able to be with myself if that makes sense, then i spent a year just having fun and casually dating. about two years after my divorce did i actually feel the want to settle down and be committed.. but everyone’s journey is different their is no set time. i have a lot of people i know who go relationship to relationship but they can’t stand to be alone that was me i had to find me first
Dating someone new is the primary cause of divorce in many cases, why wait?
Kidding / not kidding
After my divorce, I went through divorce-care. I feel like it really helped with the healing process. The insecure recommends to wait one year before you start dating. Check it out.
I try to learn from my mistakes.
MD1 must be from Deloitte. 😂
When asked by the media after his divorce whether he wanted to remarry, actor George Clooney said:
"Been there,
Done that,
Don't want to do it again."
As a once-divorced guy, I've borrowed that line numerous times.
Go on dates but be explicit you’re not ready for serious. Would be good to get exposure to get out there but definitely communicate clearly where you’re at and don’t let emotions cloud your judgement. I’d give a year before considering a relationship.