How do I politely decline that I’m not okay to make out in the first date or when the guy calls me over to his place after we meet/eat/drink? I want to take things slowly & know the person before getting physical. Not everyone might like this but that’s what I am & this whole thing appears off-putting.

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If he respects your decision then he won’t have a problem with it. If he has a problem with it, then he isn’t the one.

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Totally agree with POM1 ^. Im the same way, OP. If he doesn’t accept that, sorry not sorry.

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Agree with the above. A lot of times though, the guys I like do not respect this decision, while those I am not too much into - do respect this🤪 that’s why I’m single i guess

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Ya VP, same. We like/chase the bad boys 😆

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You have to learn how to establish healthy boundaries with yourself and in your relationships. Communicate what you’re looking for and what you want. Just say “I like to take things slowly and get to know the person I’m dating before doing xyz.”

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Tell the guy you don't go to someone's house after you just met them. It's plain and simple and for your safety. I wouldn't even go to the house to put yourself in that situation.

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I think I did the wrong here without thinking much. The only reason I agreed was coz he said all his friends were coming over to meet & as we belonged to same community/cities back home, it would be nice to know other folks. I had no idea that this plan was getting sabotaged until after I got there.

I think you can just like do what you’re comfortable with and stop and just say “looking forward to more next time!” Doesn’t have to be a thing you know. A lot of guys might be weird about it, oh well. Just do you, in the end that’s always the best option.

You can simply say no. You don't have to please him. He'll respect you if he's looking for a serious relationship.

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