i feel like my manager has lost some confidence in me and bc of that i’m losing confidence in myself. i just started less than a year ago, i know i have a long way to go, but it’s starting to make me feel really depressed and anxious at work. i feel like i mess up more now bc i’m so nervous about what i’m doing

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If it’s affecting your output they aren’t the manager for you. A skilled manager can give the feedback while keeping you motivated. Find a new manager

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I have to tell you, sometimes managers give up when feedback isn’t being taken seriously. We have our limits too.

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From the flip side, if you feel like that you are being asked for less work or whatever tangible thing it is, that makes you feel that way, it could just be that your manager has assessed that you are now at full capacity to do what you can do effectively at one time. Sometimes it takes managers some time to assess what everyone can effectively do, and when they are at capacity to delegate that work elsewhere.

One way to validate or scope this out could just to touch in and be like "hey about, xyz, I think I am at a good spot to reengage xyz at this time, what do you think?"

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It sounds like you could be stuck in a spiral of self doubt and confirmation bias, which may be amplifying your perception of errors and poor performance. Been there too. I’ve found meditation helpful, and keeping a list of projects gone well (also helps for feedback cycles) and read writing down 1+ things you’re grateful for each day is good too. You’re performance follows your mental health so making that a priority will help build your confidence, which will in turn help you do well at work. If there’s any problems, your manager will (should) tell you outright or chalk it up to a bad couple weeks. You’ve got this!

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Switch the project. Hope you find a better manager

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I’ve been feeling this way too :(

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Talk to your manager. 9 out of 10 times they will be transparent, and will share how they really feel. Then you know and you can address it. Don’t brush it under the carpet. Have the conversation. Clarity and feedback is a blessing.

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OP - have you done something to lose their confidence? I wouldn’t worry you’ll earn the trust back after a few good days.

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