I have a physician colleague who is gaslighting and trying to manipulate me. He is trying to dictate my schedule and my patient load. My boss seems somewhat aware but not doing anything. This is going on for 3 years. I want to have a frank discussion with my boss but scared of the repercussions.

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No f**ing way that I would put up with that. You have plenty of options. Recruiters call me everyday. If you don’t stand up for yourself, you will continue to be the doormat. My tolerance for this crap is low. Do yourself a favor and walk away if not heard.

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Have the discussion. Three years is a long time to be putting up with that and it's not going to get any better if you don't take action.

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3 years. You waited too long my friend. Your boss has already noticed and decided to let you spin in the wind. Just leave. And find your agency and your voice sooner the next time. As physicians , we have to actively unteach ourselves the docile yes-man behaviors required for success in Med school and residency.

Good luck!

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Stand up for yourself

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