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There are thousands of mainly straight events that involve inappropriate clothing and drugs but no one worries about the “straight image” - there’s sometimes this thought that gay people (or any historically marginalized group) has to earn respect by acting a certain way, but I think that’s rubbish. Gay people are allowed to do those things and be respected, just like straight people, and everyone else
I get that, my point here is more along the lines of the fact that no one is worrying about a “straight image” to the same degree. If you don’t think what someone’s doing at a pride parade is personally respectable that’s your point of view, but I think it’s problematic to worry that they’ll ruin everything for all gays. If straight people think what some gay people do at pride is shocking, they should still know that it’s just some gay people, and other gay people shouldn’t lose sleep over it.
OP, it’s cool if that type of pride event isn’t your vibe - like A1 said, there’s plenty of others - but you should explore the root of your concern with how our community is perceived. Like, are you against ppl doing drugs, being sexual, wearing inappropriate clothes, etc., in general? Or do you think it makes us less ‘palatable’ as a whole? Either way it’s very likely rooted in some flavor of the same homophobia and/or conservatism that has always sought to suppress us
Are you talking about Pride parade specifically? I didn’t know people have sex at those events these days (I stopped going cause it’s too chaotic for my taste).
But I’m more of an opinion that gay community is not monolithic and if someone is forming an opinion of a large group because of behaviors of a few individuals, it is on them. Like it never crosses my mind that I should behave in certain ways so we all look good to the society. That sounds tiring and typically IDGAF 🤪
As someone who has helped organize some Pride events, we try to balance things, at least in my community, which is very conservative. I had a whole battle with my own board to put on a drag show this year. 🙄
Trust your community organizations to plan events that are representative of the queer community while not alienating everyone else….🤷🏻♂️ and if for some reason you feel like the events need you don’t represent you, organize something yourself, just don’t go stepping on toes.
You have to understand that the reason for this is how suppressed we all where the we kinda like to act out and rub it in the face of our haters.
I don’t go to pride events for this reason. I too wish they weren’t sexualized like I’ve experienced in the past. I think doing so feeds into a stigma that I’d like to avoid. We have a 4-year old daughter and while I’d love to have her experience the “pride” part of these events, I don’t want her to see the other parts at this young of an age.
I think now tho, as being gay becomes less “radical” these events ARE getting more ally and family centric. Which makes sense. Because there is little difference between “us” and “them” in regards to how we live our day to day life.
10000% - lek!!!
I'm gay and the gay community clearly has issues anyway. At least they're open about it 😛
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