I used to be a very happy go lucky, loved being around people, confident person. For the last year or so I went through friendship breakups, my anxiety spiked up and recent also got laid off from my tech job. I have gotten to the point where I’ve essentially lost hope. I don’t feel safe around people, I fight with my partner way too often and I consider myself to be a loser. I essentially feel defeated in life. Has anyone gone through this? I think this is my rock bottom.

Definitely seek help. listen to the narrative you’re now telling about yourself and try to update and rewrite that narrative. I.e., from “I’m a loser, im not good enough, etc” —> to “I’m a good person, smart and capable, kind, I deserve good things, I’ve just run into some setbacks but I’ll be back on my feet soon”.
Speak to yourself in the same manner you would to a close and dear friend. Research shows your thoughts create the signals that then help it become reality,
Good or bad. Good luck!

You might want to seek help. If you’re experiencing anxiety or depression, there are treatments for that. I hope you find relief and get back to your happy self soon.

Your brain believes what you tell it, change the narrative in your head.

Have you talked to a therapist?

D 1 is correct. Right now you are stuck in this spiral. You need to interrupt this pattern. Take a break from interviewing. Right now your performance is reinforcing your negative view. Research says it takes 30 days to solidify a new habit.
1. This is not the real you, just a big bump in the road.
2. Shift from telling yourself I used to be happy, self confident person to I am a happy, self confident person. This is an aberration.
3. Write positive affirmations and post them everywhere. Carry them on a card with you. If you hear a negative thought creeping in, take three deep breaths and read your card.
4. Make sure you exercise daily- those endorphins help elevate your mood.
5. Get outside around a green space daily.
6. Meditation helps. If you have a smart watch it likely has a 2 minute relax session or something equivalent. Do it.
7. You deserve to be happy. Own that thought.
8. Enlist your partner.


Therapy never worked for me, but I know it does for others. For me, it mattered not why or how I got here. It only mattered how I moved past it. Focusing on the why and how put my focus on the wrong thing and made it harder to leave it. I can still stress myself out if I reflect on any of those instances. You could always have handled something differently, but it may not have changed the outcome. And it matters not because you cannot go back, you can only move forward. It's like grief. You either let it heal, or you wallow in it. It takes time. It isn't instant and it's also okay that it creeps back in on occasion.

Hugs. Here's to bringing your old self out to play again. Everyone misses her.

This is impacting my interviews because I fumble so hard. I stutter, my grammar is off when I speak and my thoughts aren’t structured. Even when I meet a new person, I started feeling anxious and shaky. Even walking on the street, my thoughts are full of negativity which makes me feel anxious and dizzy. I just don’t know what to do and how to navigate through this. If someone has any advice or has gone through this, please let me know.

Hi OP, just wanted to give you a hug ❤️ I’ve been there before and I totally get it. I see that you said you’re already doing therapy and taking anti-anxiety meds—that’s definitely a good start. I learned that I had to try different kinds of medications before I found one that fits me, including therapists.

I hope you find a path that heals you and makes you feel like yourself again. Please be patient (with yourself) because it can take a few different tries. But as long you put the work in, you’ll get there.

I wish you the best ❤️‍🩹