Invited some coworkers out for drinks after work... they all had "other plans." Is it impossible to break into friend groups here or am I just reading too much into this?

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The Seattle freeze is real. Plus everyone is a nerd introvert.

That’s why Seattle has all the biggest companies in the world, but some how San Francisco has all the glory.

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Seattle is a tough crowd based on my experience having moved here. I had better luck meeting friends once I found people with interest or hobby as native Seattlites are very closed off. That said, I always give everyone the benefit of three shots and then move on.

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If you don’t ski, climb, or hike, it’s rather difficult.
Source: a person who’s willing to make new friends only if it involves skiing and hiking

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It can be tough if you are from a place where there is a culture of a lot of social responsibility to welcome strangers. I don’t think Seattle residents are assholes, they just have built-in friend groups. And many people don’t want to hang out with coworkers outside of work, because they want work/life boundaries. I always recommend people join an activity they really enjoy: art classes, improv, hiking groups, dance groups, trail building with the WTA, etc. You’ll meet similar people who are usually also there to meet new people.

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+1 to that. I have seen that folks are really friendly at work but don't want to socialize later.

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LOL welcome to Seattle. If you want to have fun save yourself the trouble and leave sooner rather than later

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You’re doing it wrong

Yeah I lived there for 3 yrs and had a tough time meeting ppl especially through work (west monroe)

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